I Adore Her

There’s this girl Ive known for over 3years now. She’s hot as hell and has got a great personality. She’s really friendly, nice, well mannered, has a sense of humour, a heartwarming smile, great to hang around with and most importantly can make u feel really comfortable when ur around her. U can tell her almost anything with full assurance that she’ll listen thru it all no matter how crappy it might be, no matter how pathetic it might be and be sure that she’ll support u and help u after uve done with ur confessions or ur snob story.

She’s strong and independent. Her principles and beliefs are firm. They don’t change after each discussion she has regarding a certain topic. Guys are crazy about her. So many have tried to get to her and so many have tried to get into her pants.*Did i say that she is REALLY hot?* Those guys whom girls would consider handsome as ever and those guys for whom they claim they would do anything for. Such guys have tried as well. She’s a very outgoing person. Always with someone, on a date, a meeting etc. hangs around with lots of friends and even guys all the time. Has got all the freedom she wants and has the opportunity and privacy to get away with anything she wants with any of those guys if u know what I mean.

But so far she’s kissed jes two guys and those two were her 2 boyfriends. All those guys who have tried so hard have all left in vain. They never managed to make her slip even once or go a single step beyond the boundary where she has drawn the line. Here’s what she had to say to that.”If they wanna treat me to dinners and hang out with me or be my friend, im all up for it. But jes because they were that nice or so and so, it doesn’t mean that I have to sleep with them or make out with them or get together with them. Im not a slut. I have beliefs and principles. And im gonna stick to them no matter how irresistible the guy. And if they start over flirting or try to give hints and all that they want me in that way, ill jes say that I don’t see them in that way without leading them on”.

And then I look around and what do I see? I seem to be repeating this everytime but ofcorse I don’t mean women as a whole but some girls I know. I see girls who’s lost their virginities before the age of 18 some even before 16. By the time they are 18 they’ve gotten together with over 4 guys but made out with over 8 guys. Before they know it, it turns out that they aren’t any different from a slut or how us Maldivians say a ‘badi’. Always having the need to be with some guy and not being able to be single for even 3 months. So dependable. Well, they do have some points to defend that

Two girls told me very recently that guys hit on them all the time. There’ll be around 4-5guys at a time. So why cant they jes choose the best among them and get together with them? They’ll get ‘love’(gifts, dinners, sex, comfort, a shoulder to cry on, feeling of bein cared for and loved) from them. If they don’t, they can jes break up and find someone else until they meet the right guy. So why doesnt the girl ive mentioned before not think like that? She says she doesn’t wanna be a slut. And not being a slut doesn’t mean u cant have guy friends and shouldnt be with or talk to guys. There should always be a border line and if u cant control urself or have faith in ur beliefs or principles that’s jes sad and pathetic. So who is right? Nevertheless she’s a great friend who’s always been there for me whenever I needed her and im grateful that she’s my friend :D