Relationships. Why do they fail? (1/2)

This is sumthing i wrote a few years back when I was given the topic.
Relationship indicates a strong emotional association between two of the opposite sex. Well… it needn’t be of the opposite sex. Everybody needs passion, affection, love and most importantly empathy. The ability to imagine, experience and share another person’s feelings.


The most important factor which is looked upon in our community in a relationship is the looks. That is considered the basic and first priority by almost everyone. A boy meets a girl. “WOW! She’s hot. Look at that shape and figure. Bet my hands can be put to good use on her body. If my friends saw me with her they’d be so jealous of me”. He’d go and introduce himself to her and after a couple of weeks or sometimes few days of hard work, comes a small but planned speech. “With you it was love at first sight. I’d do anything for you” etc. etc. And his persistence is finally rewarded. Sex is one thing that’s mainly on his mind. But he needs to take it step by step. Just like reeling in a fish. If u struggle too hard the fish gets away after cutting the line or without having a go at the bait. U need to deceive the fish into taking the bait, get a real good grip and then reel it in. At first it starts with some kissing. After a few days it’s followed by a little exploring of the body. Some take it further into deep penetration. It goes on and on until the guy finds a new hole….errr…..i mean a taste for new kind of fish OR until the girl FINALLY comes to realize what he had wanted all this time. That’s when the problems reach its limit and the so called impenetrable bond is broken. Not much damage is done in the process though. It takes roughly about a week or so for them to move on and start the whole procedure all over again with someone new. But there are some who actually learn something from the experience and has a better start though that’s really rare.


The female side of the story is pretty much the same. Their relationship starts with the same going for the looks and the guy’s continuous persistence. The girls do it mainly to fit in with their friends. “Hey! Everybody’s taking boyfriends. Why shouldn’t I?” Too much Sweet Valley, romantic stories and romantic movies have clouded up their minds. Almost everyone believes too much in the ideal relationship. They have the image in their mind but isn’t willing to take it the way they should for that ideal relationship. They don’t want to go by the rules. Just expects everything to take its own course and the ideal relationship to come their way. They’d believe in everything the guy says. Lets say the guy goes and penetrates the girl’s best friend. The best friend comes to her and explains everything that had happened. Anyone who heard of such a situation would surely say that the girl would dump the guy right? Well… wrong answer. She goes to question the guy. But he’s so sly that she believes him and his excuses. He would first use the tactic ‘Denial’. When that doesn’t work he jes admits to what happened with lots of excuses and vows that it was his first time and that it would never happen again. That he loved her beyond description or comparison. After all, this is her boyfriend, the so called love of her life, the guy who bought all the gifts, the guy who continuously took her out to dinners and the guy who says ‘I love U’ over and over again. The so called best friend is soon out of a job and is sent to find another job elsewhere as someone else’s best friend.


The greatest weapon wielded by the guy or girl is the ‘trust story’. “What? You don’t trust me? I love you. And if you can’t trust me then how can this relationship survive?” Sweet huh? Hey! It works. And most of the time as soon as the relationship ends or the girl is dumped, there comes the ‘rebound guy’. The guy who comes into her life during her emotional breakdown or time of need. The guy who is always with her during those days. Most of the time it’s a guy who has a thing for the girl but WAS unable to approach her cos she wasn’t single. The process jes keeps on repeating on and on. And before she knows it she has already gotten together with dozens of guys and made out with even more. In other words it suddenly strikes her that she has now become a slut. Soon the age of marriage comes and she gets married to the guy who is by then her boyfriend. The knot is tied, she soon becomes pregnant and her life of relationships come to an end.