Relationships. Why do they fail? (2/2)

The relationships we face in our community works like the barter system. The guy gives gifts, treats, dinners from exotic restaurants, poems probably copied from somewhere and the long phone calls or sweet sms’s. And from the girl’s side to show her appreciation a permit which allows the guy to fulfill his sexual desires. The girl feels as if the guy is giving her so much and loving her so much, but she is unable to give gifts or show that love for him. Soon when the guy approaches physically she gives in thinking that she is now showing her love and trust for him. That it’s the least she can do for this wonderful boyfriend of hers. Most of the time she enjoys it even more so whats to stop her in a world where religion is jes a name and cover. Its like a business. And love is just a word with no meaning. There was a time when the word was so strong that no matter how long both of them were together, those three words ‘I love you’ wouldn’t jes slip out or be easy to say to jes anyone. It was priceless. Times sure have changed. Now its always love at first sight. Then how come the relationships fail? And just how many ‘love at first sights’ does each one have?


Oh yes! Almost forgot. There are two more reasons why relationships fail. One, parents. There have been cases where both mates have madly fallen for each other but were forced to cut the rope because of their parents. Lets say if the guy is from a poor family or if the parents feel that their daughter deserves a better life. And of course there have also been cases where the two are forced to separate due to shall I say, natural causes.

What is love? The feeling of affection and desire towards someone. That’s what the dictionary says anyway. But let me tell you something. Love is when the slightest details of someone which is insignificant to others seem fascinating to you. The desire to be with someone and share everything with him/her. There is no feeling of boredom no matter how long you spend time with him/her. When the personality of someone comes way before everything else. When money, looks and sex is of not much significance. It is when you know your partner so much that he/she doesn’t even have to tell you what he/she desires. It is when you can tell how he/she is feeling just by looking into his/her eyes. It is when he/she becomes a really poor liar to you. It is when love is showed not by words but by the actions. Love him/her for who he/she is. When starting a relationship you'd know him/her so well as if both of you had been together your whole life. Look for someone who really loves you for who you are. And don’t try to find the bestfriend within your bf/gf. Try to find the bf/gf within your bestfriend. Try to make your first your last. Give meaning to the word 'love'. (oh god! I sound as if im an expert o sumthing with love. Blech!)

Some of you might have a hard time in believing what i jes wrote but believe it. Whether u like it or not. And im not saying everyone is like that. There are some really wonderful people out there who still give meaning to the word ‘love’.most of the above that ive stated are from the stuff that guys and girls have confessed about. I had to do a lil survey back then too.lol.