U n ur gf breakup. During the transition period u make some new friends. One of them gets really close and starts calling. She gains ur trust and asks a lot about the breakup and everything that had happened. She starts pointing out mistakes on ur X’s side and stuff ur X should’ve done, concentrating more on those stuff. As if putting fuel into whatever dislikeness u might have for ur X. then she tries to show that all the weaknesses that were in ur X are pretty strong in hers and tells of the different and sane ways she would’ve handled the problems if it were her in ur X’s place. Then she starts calling all the time. Every morning, every night and every free time she gets. Seeks ur advice and is there for u in ur times of need.*the transition period* and soon she makes u literally hate ur X. before u know it she’s asking u to get together with her.
What are u to think of all this? Isn’t she literally taking advantage of ur feelings right after ur breakup when ur actually vulnerable? Or shud u say that she is actually helping u get over ur X? and if u do get together with her wont it mean that the relationship would all be based on a lie? Its obvious that u don’t feel the same way towards her as she does. Don’t u jes hate that? Doesn’t it Make u ask urself whether if all this would’ve been near the same if it hadn’t happened during the transition period? Would u have gotten close to her? But then again a lot of relationships have started that way. It starts to sux when u find out that she actually became what u had wanted her to be jes so that u two could get close. Jes so that her chances of u getting together with her would be greater if u thought that way.
Lets say u get together with her and soon find out the real her. And it turns out that she aint nething like how u thought she would be? Or how she had shown herself to be? Shud u then try desperately to try to make it work or break up with her? Break up with her and start this all over again? What would u be then?
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ever heard of the rebound...its a natural thing...guys and girls do it...wait for them to be dump and swoop in and be their support
now lets say she became wat u wanted because she liked u very much...even if she is really different...she did put the effot to make u lke her....so i say u shud giv her a chance not jus break up
and c'mon she put smile on the face during the down times she was there...
umm..i myself experienced something like that =s
weird =s
its good to have sm1 at that rebound period. but to date dat persn rite aftr that relatnship, without even knwing who he/she is is wierd and not a gud decision kaneynge...
but if u get togthr, knowing )or thinkg that u no her)...u shud give her a chance...coz everyone's allowed one mistake and one chance shud b given:D
you cant waste coke like that in ure side bar!!!!
i mean its coke!!!!
COKE!!!
I say 99% of us have had the experience as you did. Point is, never to repeat the same mistake as you go on to the future. Goodluck to you dear.
interesting blog, dude. jes out of curiousity, does it bother u that ur saying unflattering things about this girl? specially since her identity is not too hard to guess if u just glance to the left n cuz its someone whos last name is storme...
@starky: uve got a point there. but if u know me then ull know i dont like taking chances or getting to know who someone really is AFTER getting into a relationship with that person. used to believe in 'first and last'. now i guess it is '2nd and last'. hehe.lol. dont wanna make it 'third n last' u know.and there's another complication to this as well. *whistle whistle*
@shweeeet: do tell me more about that u know.
@odium: i have to agree with what u said at first. but then again she deserves a chance too dho? and then yet again, doesnt everyone? that doesnt mean i shudve gotten together with everyone hu's asked me dho?
@mini: u saw it jes now huh? and its been there from the beginning u know :p hehe. cokeaholic ehtha? *whistle whistle*
@anonymous: never to repeat the same MISTAKE? err....i didnt quite get that prt. DUHHHH!!! :)
@anonymous whom i missed last time(the last one);) : well, it doesnt bother me. it would if everone here knew who she was but they dont.VERY few of em MIGHT have an idea. and glance to the LEFT? and why do u think its storme? on what basis? :S
based on a coupla things. ur posts. ur shoutbox. it is on the left, right? "jes come over like b4."
but i cud be wrong. mayb ur shoutbox is on the right.
feel free to tell me to myob.
good luck with ur dilemma. take ur time to see if she has what it takes to be the 2nd n last.
i totally agree with you. I think she is stupid, if she is doing this. She will be the one in disadvantage more than you would. Its a rebound period for the person who broke up and rebound feelings never really lasts long.
She might have a good intention for helping someone get over their ex, but if she is looking for something for her own self then its just wrong in my opinion.
@anonymous: posts cos i dedicated a song to her cos it was one of her fav songs?most of my other posts are towards ppl as well even though i dont say that its dedicated to a certain person. and shoutbox jes cos i said that? hehe. sorry dude/dudette. but she aint the only one that comes over to my place u know. u can come anytime u want too. no need of asking anonymously u know. its quite fine with me even if u asked it to my face :) its no biggy.
@raaji: thanx for ur opinion raaji :) really appreciate it.
oh boy
looks like there's a heated fire going on over here, dhen maves meege thereah vadhejje dho?
btw, sweet anonymous dude, if you didn't know, arra is my ex-boyfriend ge relative eh. We've met before arra ever even had a blog :)
And his ex-girlfriend is one of my sweetest friends and I'd never bad mouth her to him. If you know anything abt me or arra, that'll make it certain that he and I are not in the least bit interested in each other.
bully for you if you cant understand friendship :)
it wasnt good what she did... but ina way... it was good for u to have someone at that time...
but ... it wud probably be better for that someone to be someone u know that wud have no feelings for u..
@velvette: hehe. i was thinking i wont say anything cos he could think atever he wants right? and well it was jes a simple random Q dho. hehe. neways, i couldnt have said it better myself.hope anonymous is feeling better knwoing that we dont have a thing for each other. she's still available u know *whistle whistle*
@whiteflower: i did have that too and yea, thats much better. no complications at the end. we'll i have made up my mind about this when i wrote the post. jes wanted to hear some opinions. thanx
dude i know u pretty well....and u know me pretty well
well its natural thing for a guy to assume that if they see a guy and girl together there is somethin there....heck bet even i wud think that but u r not the kind of guy to take heed wat others think
so she is available eh....hahahahaha alrite guys line up in a orderly fashion no pushing and shoving
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