Sex in Islam

Special thanx to PHENOL

A leaflet I got from phenol, had some interesting points that I’d like to share with everyone.

• Islam views sex in marriage as sexual reproduction and spiritually joyful activity that strengthens the bond of companionship between the husband and his wife.
• ALL sexual acts performed outside of marriage are forbidden (haram) in Islam.
• Avoiding sexual relations as part of a lifestyle to seek the grace of God is prohibited in Islam, as it is not the natural state of human beings.
• Both spouses must guard the privacy of their intimate relations and must not disclose the details of these relations to others.
• Either spouse SHOULD NOT refuse the other’s requests for sex except for special reasons such as menstruation, sickness or fasting.
• Neither spouse should engage in sexual acts that would be harmful to the other.
• Islam prohibits sexual interceourse during menstrual periods.
• The Qur’an describes such periods as “a discomfort; therefore keep away (from sexual intercourse) during their menstrual periods…
• When they have cleansed theselves then u may approach them in the manner Allah has enjoined for you.[2:222]
• Islam prohibits anal sex as an unnatural practice
• The Prophet (pbuh) was reported to have said, “one who does anal sex has disbelieved in Islam.” [Tirmizi]
• The Qur’an permits all positions of vaginal intercourse.[2:223]
• There is no legal Islamic prohibition against the use of drugs to improve sexual performance provided they do not contain intoxicants or substances harmful to health.
• Both spouses have a responsibility to groom themselves well to remain attractive to each other throughout their married life.
• In islam, one must commence sexual intercourse in a clean physical state.
• It is sunnah to take ablution or wudu if the married couple wish to repeat their sexual intercourse.
• Islam emphasizes foreplay in sexual activity.
• The Prophet (pbuh) advised spouses to begin sexual activity with “words and kisses”, and advised husbands to be sensitive to the feelings of their wives, by saying “Let none of you fall upon his wife like a donkey falls upon a she donkey.” [Daylami]
• Each should also make the effort to satisfy the sexual needs of his/her spouse and not be concerned only with one’s own pleasure.
• A man must not be with a marriageable woman (non-mahram) in a secluded place, as this will provide satan the opportunity to come between them and misguide them into adulterous acts.
• Muslims must direct their sight away from things that will arouse desires and lead them into prohibited sexual acts.[24:30]
• The Prophet (pbuh) was reported to have warned, “The eyes also commit adultery, and their adultery is the lustful look.”[Bukhari]
• Islam strongly encourages early marriage,as it wil remove the need to satisfy sexual urges outside of marriage.
By: Dr Y Mansoor Marican, Ph. D.