Would u tell?

If u found out or saw something about the bitu of a friend that was more than just suspicious, gives a shock "WTF??!!" or anything to do with cheating, drinking, shagging prostitutes, drugs etc, would u go and tell your friend about it? The obvious answer would be "yes" right?

But then again would your friend believe you? Afterall, you had no proof. Its not like you had a video camera with you or if in the case of cheating, its not like you saw that person actually having sex. Wouldnt it be logical for your friend NOT to believe you?

Lets put ourselves in our friend's shoes. If a friend comes and tells you such a thing without any proof about your own bitu, would you believe it? Or would you go and tell your bitu that this certain friend has said this and that and whether if its true? Even if your bitu did it or not, without proof there's no way anyone would agree to such a thing right? Even if you point out the date and time,a lot of convincing stories can be told even at that instance.

Plus u'll have that urge or tendency within you to believe in your bitu and even wishing what your friend had told you to be a lie or some misunderstanding. at that point it wont matter even if ur friend isnt someone who lies about stuff. What would happen then? Ur bitu would start saying stuff about your friend, saying that person is trying to mess up the relationship or something like that. Soon, even unintentionally u'll start hating your friend and ur bitu is gonna do everything she can to spoil that friendship or to keep that friend far away.

So i guess u cant really blame ur friend even if he/she doesnt believe what u tell him dho? AFterall this is the bitu whom your friend is together with, shares everything with, one with whom all those romantic memories were shared with, the one whom ur friend makes out with. and the one who was mostly there at the time of need.
So what would you do with that info?

Theres also the option of not telling about it. If your friend had any brains at all and wasnt still naive he/she should be able to figure it out right? But then again you dont want your friend to suffer jes becos you are holding back what you know. You wouldnt want to take that risk either.

In my experience its better not to tell. depends on what kinda person my friend is. is he/she the kind who would go tell his/her bitu the instant u tell anything? if so better to keep quiet about it. will eventually find out right? I had an experience where i told a friend that the guy she had jes started seeing was jes trying to get into her pants. she later realised it O after i told her everything i knew and cut him off. she was so thankful and grateful. but then soon afterwards jes like that i was hated beyond anyone in her life probably. and i was treated and spoken to as if i had murdered someone. all the nice stuff she said were replaced with words of hurt and senseless complaining. so i decided then and there that i wont do it anymore.

And if a friend told me something about my gf,i wouldnt tell her about it jes yet. not until ive heard the whole story from my friend and done with a little digging of myself. I dont believe that its NOT trusting my gf. Afterall, i dont have to tell every bit of info i hear or see to my gf. Especially about this. even if i tell her i can jes say its from someone anonymous. who knows. It might all even be a big misunderstanding. So if i told my gf about it, there would obviously be friction between my friend and her even if it turns out to be a misunderstanding or not. What would u do?