Some basics on "How to cheat on your Bf"

*Most Maldivian girls cant go out and be with guys without a lot of Questions arising. So you wanna be bringing him over to your place saying he’s a close ‘friend’. And chose the limited time you can go out for special occasions and ‘purposes’ which you cant obviously do at home.

*Tell your bf that he is a close friend of yours and hint him how your previous bf was really obsessive and over protective of you keeping you away from your guy friends. Tell him how much you had hated that quality. He’ll get the hint and will try to be understanding and trusting.

*So he’ll let you hang out with this friend and call him. Just don’t tell him that you do it all the time and don’t talk about that guy much unless you want your bf to be suspicious about this certain guy.

*Don’t worry much about your phone and the records as most guys have this pride about them which prevents them from going through your phone. You can adjust it depending on what kind of guy he is as some of them can be pretty weird.

*It’s a good thing to let the guy know about your bf as guys don’t really care about it that much as long as they can get ‘some’ or atleast if they know they would get ‘some’ after you breakup with your bf.

*But you can always hide the fact that you have a bf if you aren’t sure about your relationship and if you need him as a back up incase you have to breakup. Don’t want him to label you as “just a friend” now do you? Which might make it harder for the guy to make a move on you after you breakup, especially if you’re the type who usually lets the guy do the seeking. Or he might even go hit on some other girl.

*It’s a good thing to let your bf know that other friends will also be there when you’re going out with the guy to lower his suspicions. Afterall, you’re going out to hang out with a group of friends

*Tell this guy about your relationship stressing on all the problems you guys face and how incompatible you guys are. Most of the time he’ll agree with you. Its easy to do. For example you can always pin on him being either obsessive or not caring enough. There’s no mid point. Its one of those ;)

*It’s a good thing to not bring this guy to meet your closest friends as mentioned before in the previous post, they might mess it up for you. Or if the guy finds out that you’re occupied he might hit on one of your friends.heheh. That should be fun. Lol.

*To put it simple, if you want him just for ‘that’, its best to let him know. Most guys wont give a damn as long as they can get some. So its alot easier with guys.

*If your bf finds out or is suspicious show him some extra 'love'(you know what i mean) and he'll easily give in. ;)

*Heres something you can say to your bf if you're really upto it. If he complains about you hanging out and calling this guy,point out that you're in a relationship with him and not this other guy. That you're kissing(to make it sound more nice) him and not the other guy. that you're only meeting him to 'talk' as a 'friend'.

*The good thing about girls is that unlike guys, only a few of them wanna have affairs(unless they are married ofcourse as that’s a totally different thing).*whistle whistle*. Most of them like keeping back ups incase their current relationship ends. Like the old saying goes “jassaane gaagandeh balaanulaa udhussaa nugannaashey”

*Im sure you can gather the rest from the previous post which applies to this one as well.

Some basics on "How to cheat on your Gf"

First off, don’t go around telling people that you aren’t single. Keep it hush hush. Try to tell as few ppl as possible. Ur a guy. Ur gf wont be coming over to ur place everyday to see u. its gonna be the other way around. So that’s gonna be a bit easier to manage with lesser Questions from ppl.

Now when u find another girl, make sure she is of a different batch than ur gf. Many of the girls in male’ study at the same schools and are bound to know or would’ve heard of each other if they are in the same batch. Or atleast have a friend who knows her. So pick someone of a different batch. Or you can just go to facebook and check the friends in common. Facebook can be VERY helpful at times. ;) You can even check to see if her closest friends know the other girl too. Or even her closest friends.

Never mention ur gf’s name to her or her name to ur gf unless there’s no other way. Even if you have to mention either just say it’s a close friend.

Don’t bring ur gf into ur circle of close friends or this other girl either. Your friends might slip up and mention the other or if they know ur cheating on her, one of them might decide to go all noble on ur arse and tell her which would bring a couple of headaches and complications along ur way.

Try not to go out cycling or go out that often. Try as much as you can to stay indoors. Plus that’s mainly how you’d be getting what you really want. If either of them asks whom you were with at a certain time that day indicating she might’ve seen you with the other girl, don’t lie and make up a story. But say you went with a friend to drop her home or went to dinner with a friend you haven’t seen in a long time. Something totally innocent. Because if she really did see you and you lied saying u weren’t with a girl, you’re going down. Unless she’s stupid enough to believe you over what she saw with her own eyes.

Drop that need to brag to your friends about it. Even if you do, keep names and details about them a secret. You don’t want them accidentally bumping into the girls and befriending them. Guys have a weakness to sell out their friends if it brings him a step closer to getting to her. No matter how close a friend he might be.

Don’t be corny and write nicknames such as ‘love’ , ‘hon’ etc in ur phone book regarding either. And for god’s sake remember to regularly delete sms’s from either as well as the call record. Don’t just delete the whole list. Only calls from and to either of them. And don’t keep pictures or videos in ur phone either. That has come to bite a lot of guy’s in the arse when the girl starts searching their phones and seeing all that.

Have a bit of a schedule in ur head. And try to allocate a time for either of them that ofcourse doesn’t coincide. Try to keep an hr in between so that neither of them will be calling you while ur with the other as ur running late. And let her know that ur going to be with friends at that time and that they tease you if she calls or sms’s saying she’s got u on a leash. That way she wont call you when ur with the other girl. And let her know that you don’t like it when she asks too many Questions as if she is being suspicious.

Shower her with talks of trust and love. If she starts to suspect and begin asking Qs, use the tactic ‘Denial’. And then go to the ‘trust’ story. “What? You don’t trust me? I love you. And if you can’t trust me then how can this relationship survive? I totally trust you. Why cant you?”. Don’t worry. She’ll feel guilty enough to stop asking Qs and believe everything you say in a day or two.

In the event that either of them finds out about the cheating in some weird way, and if u don’t have a logical way out just agree to it. Then give lots of excuses and vows that it was your first time, you were weak but it will never happen again. To give you a second chance. Beg and even shed a fake tear or two if you have to. Showing that ur emotional about it tends to make her think you really love her and that its ok to make a mistake. Be extra careful these couple of days. Atleast until uve regained her trust.

Think of complications that may arise and be careful. Always keep in your mind whom you would choose if you had to. So if it all blows up, you can quickly ditch the other and show extra care and love to the one you want saying she had always been the one for you. The one you really loved. The other girl was jes a friend who fell for you and was trying to distant you from ur true love.

Hope you enjoyed the read. Hopefully the next one will be “How to cheat on your Bf”

Hope you laugh ur arse off

THE FOLLOWING ARE THE TOP STORIES ON THE NEWS

*The great Jamboanee, eccentric human cannonball known for taking his lucky donkey to all of his performances escaped near tragedy today when the donkey climbed into the cannon muzzle just as Jamboanee was taking off. It took the surgeons 3 hrs to remove Jamboanee’s head from his Ass. Both are resting comfortably.

*A fight was started downtown by a man wearing a suit made completely of mirrors. The police said the man apologized once he had time to sit down and reflect.

*Donors are wanted for a man whose buttocks were blown off in an industrial accident. Doctors report “no end in sight”

*Nine out of ten Maldivians believe that out of ten people, one will always disagree with the other nine.

*Wives live longer than husbands because they are not married to women

*60’s musical group “the birds” today announced their 24th city re-union tour with their new band member George W.Bush. To save on money, Mr.Bush will play both guitar and drums. According to a spokesman, "a Bush in the band is worth two in the Birds".

*Psychic convention cancelled due to unforeseen circumstances

*A man is still in critical condition after swallowing 250,000 dollars in large bills. No change is expected

*95year old Fred Skippy was found NOT guilty today of sexual harassment. The 95yr old however was charged with “assault with a dead weapon”

*Convicted hitman Jimmy two shoes mc.Cardy, confessed today that he was once hired to beat a cow to death in a rice field using only two small porcelain figures. Police admit that this may be the first known case of a Knick Knack Paddy Wack.

*NASA sends probe to Uranus. People everywhere giggle.

let me know if u didnt get any(highly doubt that happening). *whistle whistle*

Grrrrr

Damn i hate this. all these damn medical tests. tests tests tests. blood, urine, x-rays, scans. Already over Rf6000 worth of TESTS. And does anyone know what the test with those wires or so are connected arround your heart(on the external skin ofcourse) do? something about the nervous system around the heart? or something to do with the pumping of blood through veins? anyone know anythin about it?
Next thing i know they'd be sticking a tube up my arse. That would be the day. lol.

Fire Fighting

We recently had an advanced fire fighting course done. Believe me. Theres a HUGE difference from what we see in movies and the real thing. There was a replica of a part of a ship with three compartments and a tunnel. The whole purpose of the course was to train us to be a scene leader and incharge of such an operation and exposure to different scenarios. So each time, four guys would be allocated to be the fire teams(two in each team), who would go prep up for entry by putting on all the protective wear and breathing apparatus. The others would be helping with the boundary cooling(spraying of water from the outside to bring about a cooling effect and also used to find the locations of the burning fires inside).

When the first team had gotten ready, their air cylinder pressures would be taken to calculate an estimated amount of time they would be able to be inside before their air ran out. At first I thought it would be simple. I mean afterall, you go in there with the hose and just put out the fire right? And then you look around for the missing persons(dummys) and just carry them out one by one. How hard can it be right?

Well, one guy’s holding the fire hose and a torch while the other guy is helping him with the hose and maintaining communication with the outside. But the minute you go in there with this rather heavy gas cylinder on your back with a tight gas mask on your face, helmet, fire jacket and gloves on, its obviously really difficult to move about as you would without them. Its dark as hell in there. Not to mention the heat that can be felt despite the jacket and protective gear. Even when you shine the torch, its light reaches only about one and a half feet away from the torch due to all the smoke that’s continuously being released from the blazing fire. And you haven’t even located the fire yet. So you’re moving step by step dragging all these stuff along with you, feeling around with your feet and hands trying to find casualties in there(who are supposedly unconscious as they are dummies ofcourse). Your heartbeat is racing. You’re feeling claustrophobic and its hot as hell. By now you’re basically panting meaning that you’re using up more and more air.

So once you’ve finally located the fire you put on the hose and actually have to go at it till the fire is completely extinguished as its really easy for the fire to burn up again after a couple of seconds if you don’t. Once your air is almost replenished, you make your way back step by step trying not to hit urself against a pipe or trip over. When you’re out, the next team goes in and you’re supposed to change the cylinders with new ones and prepare the sets after doing all the necessary checks and make ready to go back in as soon as the other team comes out. It was excruciating. But by the end of the next day we had gotten pretty used to it and found easier ways to deal with the problems we face while in there. So overall I guess it was a really exciting course.

And to think that these were controlled fires that couldn’t spread more than a certain area. Not to mention the fact that by the time you go in there a few times, you’re familiar with the place and more aware of where to search and the layout of the spaces and floors. But still it was a huge challenge. Now I think of all those real fires which are ALOT bigger in size, temperature and magnitude that are occurring. The firefighters are going into places they have never seen before in their entire life with ALOT more smoke having the fear that the roof or floor might cave in at any given time. Not to mention how rapidly fires can spread and grow. So my hats off to all the brave firefighters who actually risk their own lives DAILY, jes so that they could rescue complete strangers. Good luck to all the guys who did the course. Great job out there. Hope the crew I have to work with are as competent and reliable as you guys. 

To tell or not to tell

Im sure uve been in a situation where someone has come asking for your advice regarding his relationship. You had reliable information that he was being cheated on which you felt he should know about. The first time round you tell him honestly what you know and how you know and give your opinion about it. You could care less about the other person in the relationship. Lets say your friend listens to you, makes up his decision and goes off. But in the end he goes and does the complete opposite of it even when he found out you were telling the truth. Furthermore he rats you out saying you were the one who told him what had been hidden to him and had adviced him to do this and this, BUT how he overcame it and chose to do the opposite all for love. You jes let it slide saying he was weak and that he'd regret it later which he does. Because like we say "effulhah mathin fummaali bakari aneh fulhah mathinves fummaalaane". And that ccomes to bite your friend in the arse after things had messed up alot.

Later on the same kind of problem happens with another friend. This cycle continues and after a couple of rather disappointing scenarios you look back. And you see that for example only two person from the six ppl that came for that advice actually took it. the others all regretted it later but in the process burnt ur arse and made you turn out to be the bad guy. But the only two friends who actually took the advice were ever so thankful.

But then you start thinking about the whole thing. Whether if its really worth it all. You ask yourself why in the world you're getting involved. Would it have been better if you had jes kept out of it? Or jes pretended you didnt know anything? You start changing your views about it. Because as for the last one who came, you told him that you've encountered this problem before. That this and this had happened. That you didnt want to get involved in it....telling him the scenarios one of which was bound to happen, all in which you would turn out to be the bad guy. But you also feel that since he is your friend you have a right to tell him the truth and let him decide for himself what to do from thereforth no matter how messy it might get. so due to his persistence you tell him what you know and it turned out you were right again. One of the scenarios you explained came to be afterall. So then you start thinking. Screw it! You could care less about what happened. Its not your life, its not your problem. They've got a brain, they can think up a way and act on their own.

Then suddenly out of nowhere and more than a year after the incident one of those friends who had listened to you and was grateful for it sends you an sms. Thanking you for what you did back then. That he was grateful for it saying that now he realises jes how tough it wouldve been for you back then. All the doubts in your mind when you push yourself to come to that decision without simply brushing it off. As he had now faced that same situation with a friend of his.

So think about it all a bit. Was it really worth it all for those two that emerged despite the other four that didnt? Do you think you shouldnt have told any of them?It surely wouldve been easier and less complicated for you that way. Think deep about it all before you come to that decision. :)

Lying and Cheating in a Marriage(2 of 2)

By now she is complaining to her friends as well that this and that is happening to her life and marriage seeking comfort from them on what to do and how to proceed. Complaining what an asshole her husband is and how could he be doing this to her and their child. They all give her the advice she needs. She listens to it all and assures them that she would stand her ground. But everytime at the very end she turns tail and runs off being subdued by the husband. And ends up saying that she doesn’t have proof that she is being cheated on, and that she has to think about her child and whats to become of him if she were to get a divorce. She starts having doubts if anyone would accept her as after the divorce she would come in a package. She is afraid of a lot of things which are quite understandable.

Now I come to the point of all this. Look ppl. If u wanna get a divorce and don’t want to live in a life filled with lies and cheating anymore, quit your whining and do something about it. Make a stand and actually walk the walk. But if ur too weak or decide to say “im doing this for my child and I still don’t have solid proof”, then quit whining about your husbands. We’d agree that you aren’t being cheated on and that everythin would be great if that’s what you really wanna hear. So go back to living that life in denial with that voice in the back of ur mind telling you over and over again that ur being lied to and that ur being cheated on. Im sure even if u saw ur husband butt naked with another woman you would find some way to convince yourself otherwise. Women all over the world are being oppressed and taken advantage of by men. Why? Don’t blame it on the men. You let yourselves be in that situation. No one can change that life for you until you make a stand for it. So don’t go around blaming men for your mistakes.

Now id like to direct you to something “dhondhooni” wrote on her blog
“there's this couple. they had been married atleast for more than 8 years. they have four kids too. what happened is that, recently this lady had a miscarriage during the fourth month of her pregnancy and apparently she had some bleeding problem for quite a number of days. [during which apparently they wouldn't be doing THE sexual stuff].

here comes the best part. apparently, this lady got so depressed about not being able to satisfy his man sexually, she actually went [at noon] and brought some girl FOR her husband to satisfy him! yes, this is true!” –dhondhooni.blogspot.com-
P.S- to all those ppl who had experienced such a thing happening to a friend of yours. Don’t butt in. Give them your advice as a friend and let things be from that part on. Don’t try to be a saint or convince her over and over again. There’s no use trying to fill water into a tank with a hole in it if she isn’t willing to put the plug on that hole. Mind your own business and step aside before u get hit with “you cant possibly understand my situation. I have a child and im married”. It’s the same if it’s the other way around and that it’s the wife who is doing the cheating. Unfortunately I met a guy with 2 kids whose wife was shagging the young man who was brought to their place to help with the house chores. He would sometimes come home to hear her shagging him on his bed. He would sit down and wait in the sitting room until they finish. All for the sake of his two kids. She would actually know her husband is outside but would finish up before coming out. Sad and pathetic.

Lying and Cheating in a Marriage(1 of 2)

First off, I would like to say that this post isn’t about a specific couple in particular. But feel free to think its about you if you really want to. :P

Guy meets girl. They fall in love. Make out and have sex. Leads to a lovely marriage with a wonderful wedding. Lots of shagging at first. Seems like both of them cant get enough of each other. Doing it on the bed, table, chair, roof, elevator, staircase, in the ocean. You name it. Full of ‘love’. Pretty soon most of them give birth to a beautiful baby. So cute and adorable. They’ve created life from their love for each other. A family of their own. But somewhere along this beautiful and wonderful journey something happens which leads to something totally unexpected. The sex has greatly decreased. Upto the point where you feel like you have to actually ask for it or even beg for it. When you have to actually persuade your husband into it. This is usually experienced by the wife in particular.

Pretty soon you notice that he takes longer at work, goes to more coffees and spends more time outside. Why no sex? “im tired honey”. “don’t feel like it tonight”. His phone bill starts rising(that’s if by then the wife is allowed to see the bills). He suddenly puts a password on his phone and grows more distant from her. No more “I love you” or any of those romantic stuff that he used to do. She starts worrying. She knows that she doesn’t look the same after giving birth. She starts feeling insecure and in the back of her mind she hears a soft voice say that her beloved is cheating on her. But how can that be? SHE is the love of his life. Not to mention their baby who seems to be growing up so fast. No way. That’s jes being silly and stupid!

One day she starts noticing the weird actions of the ppl she know. Her friends and relatives act all weird around her. One day one of them bears the strength to come up to her and tell her that her husband has been seen with a particular girl all over the place. At restaurants, coffees, cycle rides etc. She is confused and gets mad at her friend yelling at her as she cant bring herself to believe it to be true. But she knows deep inside that so many ppl wont be thinking it and saying it if there weren’t some truth to it.

When her husband comes back home she tells him that these certain ppl (including names) have said this and that about him. So whats the truth? He smiles and tells her not to listen to them. That they are trying to come inbetween them, reassures her how much he loves her and their child. That night she has wonderful sex with her husband after a long time and by the next morning she has a huge smile on her face and she has dismissed everythin she had heard against him. But in time small things start revealing themselves. Like seeing an sms he had received from a girl and one he had sent, an email he received/sent, him speaking to some girl late at night while she was asleep, her friends seeing her husband taking a girl to a guesthouse,etc. Everything leads to an argument which ends in him justifying his actions with some lame excuse that doesn’t even make sense, a bunch of lies which later is found out followed by the previous reassurance and sex and this time it comes with apologies and asking for second chances as this time he had been caught lying to her.

The Origin of Man:Evolution or Intelligent Design.

The question of evolution or intelligent design is a controversial topic around the world. Creationists are certain that there was a creator who designed everything, while Evolutionists believe that evolution on its own brought us into existence. It was Charles Darwin in his 1859 book On the Origin of Species who introduced the theories of Natural Selection and Common Descent which gave rise to this heated debate. In 1871 in his second large book on evolution The Descent of Man, Darwin applied his two theories to human evolution. In the Muslim world human evolution was completely rejected without any consideration. The Muslim religious scholars at the time of Darwin were not fluent in English, nor were they well educated in science, so none of them had the skills needed to investigate the Quran in light of scientific findings. Once they declared “evolution is wrong,” it just stayed that way.

This slide show is too long so ill keep it simple and leave the link below. It talks about the fossils that were found which were somewhat similar to us. And by using verses from the Quran explains where it all fits. Verses which actually agree to it being true. that these beings had once roamed the earth before man did. They link the verses from the Quran to the modern day science and findings about these fossils. And actually suggests that we too could be replaced. Have a read.

Heres the link: Origin of Man

We will be removed. Its not a matter of IF but WHEN!

Ok ok, bear with me. i recently came across this lecture which explains a very interesting religious view about evolution which was really different from the ones we usually hear. All we hear is "God created man and sent Adam as the first human being. so evolution is false" and we stop it right there. Anyone who says anythin against it......well, u know how the stories go. So ive summed up the slides and decided to put it up. The one below is one which was presented before the actual one which relates to it. so i figured i'd put it up as well. So have a read through this one and ill post the following one(longer than this im afraid:The origin of man, Evolution or Intelligent Design) after this. And at the bottom ive put up the link which would take you to the actual slides. i reckon that would be better(its got pictures and better to read as well ;).hehe



فَإِذَا نُفِخَ فِي الصُّورِ نَفْخَةٌ وَاحِدَةٌ وَحُمِلَتِ الْأَرْضُ وَالْجِبَالُ فَدُكَّتَا دَكَّةً وَاحِدَةً فَيَوْمَئِذٍ وَقَعَتِ الْوَاقِعَةُ
And when the Horn is blown one blow. And the earth and the mountains are carried and then pounded one pound. Then on that day The Event (Extinction Level Event) has occurred.
The Glorious Quran: chapter 69, verses 13-15 (610 AD)Early Muslim scholars1,2 stated that the companions of Prophet Muhammad indicated that these verses of chapter 69 entitled “Al-Haaqah” “The Inevitable” are related to the first blow of the Horn, an event which will mark the end of the human race as we know it. The phrase “فَدُكَّتَا دَكَّةً وَاحِدَةً” translated as “pounded one pound” accurately describes the effect of the impact of a massive object with the Earth. The Quran calls this inevitable Extinction Level Event Al-Waqia, The Event, and describes it in more detail in chapter 56 entitled “Al-Waqia” “The Event” verses 1-6

إِذَا وَقَعَتِ الْوَاقِعَةُ لَيْسَ لِوَقْعَتِهَا كَاذِبَةٌ
When The Event (Extinction Level Event) occurs.
For its occurrence there is no denier.
The Glorious Quran: chapter 56, verses 1-2 (610 AD)
These are the first two verses of chapter “Al-Waqia” “The Event.” Modern science confirms that it is only a matter of time before a massive space object hits Earth again. People at ground-zero will not know what hit them. This inevitable event will cause destruction of global proportion. No one will deny its occurrence, for every person on Earth will experience the effects of this Extinction Level Event.

خَافِضَةٌ رَّافِعَةٌ
Lowering down, raising up.
The Glorious Quran: chapter 56, verse 3 (610 AD)
The impact of this massive object will create a huge deep crater 10-15 times larger than the object itself, ejecting an enormous amount of material into the upper atmosphere. The aftershock of this impact will also create a wave of earth that will travel around the globe in all directions wiping out everything in its path. The Arabic words “خَافِضَةٌ” “khafidah” (lowering down) and “رَّافِعَةٌ” “raffiah” (raising up) accurately describe the sequence and effect of the impact of this massive object and the giant wave of earth that results from this event.

إِذَا رُجَّتِ الْأَرْضُ رَجًّا
When the Earth is shaken a great shacking.
The Glorious Quran chapter: 56, verse 4 (610 AD)The massive object that brings about an Extinction Level Event will hit Earth with such force that it will shake the entire planet. The impact will cause every major fault line to fail. Immense earthquakes will occur in all parts of the globe causing unimaginable destruction.

وَبُسَّتِ الْجِبَالُ بَسًّا
And the mountains are shattered to pieces.
The Glorious Quran: chapter 56, verse 5 (610 AD)
Recent research on “How Asteroids Trigger Volcanoes”1 has shown that an impact of a large asteroid and the resulting earthquakes and surface tremors will trigger volcanic eruptions around the globe. The larger the object the larger the earthquakes causing larger cracks in the Earth’s crust that allow for an increased magma flow, resulting in more violent eruptions.

فَكَانَتْ هَبَاء مُّنبَثًّا
So they become scattered dust.
The Glorious Quran: chapter 56, verse 6 (610 AD) The very fine (like flour) particles from the numerous volcanic eruptions will be carried for many miles, settling out as a dust-like layer across the landscape. This is known as an ashfall.

إِذَا الشَّمْسُ كُوِّرَتْ
When the sun is shaped like a ball.
The Glorious Quran: chapter 81, verses 1 (610 AD)Early Muslim scholars1,2 stated that the companions of Prophet Muhammad indicated that verses 1-6 of this chapter “Al-Takwir” are also describing events related to the first blow of the Horn. The dust in the air from the impact and from volcanic ash will block the sunlight reducing its visibility making it look like a ball. The dramatic decrease of sunlight reaching the surface will also produces a drastic short-term global reduction in temperature, called impact winter. Plant photosynthesis stops and the food chain collapses.

وَإِذَا النُّجُومُ انكَدَرَتْ
And when the stars are obscured.
The Glorious Quran: chapter 81, verses 2 (610 AD)At night the volcanic ash and smoke in the atmosphere will obscure the starlight.

وَإِذَا الْجِبَالُ سُيِّرَتْ
And when the mountains are moved.
The Glorious Quran chapter: 81, verse 3 (610 AD)The uncountable violent volcanic eruptions will create massive mountains of flowing lava

وَإِذَا الْعِشَارُ عُطِّلَتْ
And when the she-camels, ten months with young, are abandoned.
The Glorious Quran: chapter 81, verse 4 (610 AD)
A camel in her tenth month of pregnancy is extremely precious to her owner because she is just about to deliver her baby. However, due to the horrible events of this day of destruction, even the most precious of property will be abandoned.

وَإِذَا الْوُحُوشُ حُشِرَتْ
And when the wild beasts are gathered together.
The Glorious Quran: chapter 81, verse 5 (610 AD)
Out of fear, all kinds of wild animals will run together seeking areas of relative safety.

وَإِذَا الْبِحَارُ سُجِّرَتْ
And when the oceans are set alight.
The Glorious Quran: chapter 81, verse 6 (610 AD)
The Volcanic eruptions in the seas and the lava purring into them from the land will raise their level and temperature and make them appear on fire.

يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمْ إِنَّ زَلْزَلَةَ السَّاعَةِ شَيْءٌ عَظِيمٌ يَوْمَ تَرَوْنَهَا تَذْهَلُ كُلُّ مُرْضِعَةٍ عَمَّا أَرْضَعَتْ وَتَضَعُ كُلُّ ذَاتِ حَمْلٍ حَمْلَهَا وَتَرَى النَّاسَ سُكَارَى وَمَا هُم بِسُكَارَى وَلَكِنَّ عَذَابَ اللَّهِ شَدِيدٌ
O mankind fear your Lord. Certainly The Earthquake of The Hour is a tremendous thing. The day you see it, every nursing one will forget her nursling and every pregnant one will deliver her burden, and you see mankind drunken, and they are not drunken, but the punishment of Allah is severe.
The Glorious Quran: chapter 22, verses 1-2 (610 AD)
According to Islamic beliefs, these events will bring about the removal of mankind, as we know it, from Earth. These events will not happen until after the second coming of Jesus, which will unite all believers in Allah (God). After his second coming a good wind will take the souls of all believers, so only those who denied Allah will experience the horrors of this day1.

Here's the link:
Evolution

Oman

Some really different but interesting things about Oman and its people. As ive mentioned previously in my last post, i had the pleasure of hanging out with some of them recently and the blabber mouth that i am, couldnt resist but having a long conversation with them about their country and people. Im jes going to mention everything as they come to mind so excuse my writing :p

It seems its casual for them to wear "dishdasha"(that robe one we see arabs wearing so often) in their daily lives. Just like we see wearing tucked in shirt, trousers with tie as an official outfit to go for offices and the same without the tie to go to school, they wear the white dishdasha for school and work. even if they're going to ceremonies as well. usually the difference would be just the colour. this shocked me as the only time ive seen them wear it here is when they go to friday prayers....but then again winter jes passed. so it was a bit hard to actually picture them wearing dishdasha almost all the time back at home.

it seems this life we know about having gfs/bfs is a big noooo to them. but they dont go "its haram in islam" or any of that sort. they jes dont see it as an appealing way so as to speak. maybe theyve gotten too used to it being that way for generations that it seems odd to even hang out with one of the opposite sex even as friends. seems if u come across a girl you like, you'd go and tell ur parents about her and they'd contact her parents and see their background. then they'd meet you two up and she gets to decide if she wants to take it further. but even then you dont get to meet her and stuff. you can call her and talk but you cant take her out on dates or anything. and guys dont even hang out with girls even as friends. if people were to see you with a girl, it would be an embarrasing thing to you, something which could ruin yours and your parents reputation. so they jes dont do it.

But ofcourse there would be ppl who'd go out of their ways and sometimes the police would catch a couple together behind a bush or so *whistle*. but what they do is, ask the girl if the guy is with her doing whatever he is with or without her consent. i guess politely asking if ur being raped.heheh. and even if they were having sex, the worst that could happen is being kept at the police station and ur parents being called up. they'd also try to lecture both of them on it and would try to get them to get married soon. Because what they believe is that its not the job of the police to go around finding adulterers and dealing with them.

One crime that is treated harshly is drug trafficking. a crime punishable by death. only to those who are involved with the selling of the drugs and not the victims. the victims are sent to rehabilitation centres. seems the convicted seller has his face covered and knelt down infront of 7 shooters. but there will only be a single bullet and even the shooters wont know whose gun has the bullet even after firing. A tactic used so that the executioner wont be known. not to mention helping in overcoming any guilt the shooters might have allowing them to tell themselves that they might not have been the actual executioner.

One of them was telling me recently how the weddings are with them. As we assumed its a wedding where men and women are separated. it seems usually the weddings are held at two houses. the house of the groom and bride where all the guys will be going to the groom's house and all the ladies to the brides house. So if i was married i would be first going to the bride's house, drop my wife there and then go over to the groom's house. and after finishing id pick my wife up. And once the whole party is over, the groom would go and pick up his newly wedded wife and the couple would go to the house they'd be residing in to get laid *whistle*. And there are weddings where halls or such are rented like we do in the Maldives. even then the ladies usually go inside and all the gents stay in the garden or so to speak. and when the majority of the guests leave, the two families and relatives eat together and then take pictures.

This has already been too long.....as always.hehe

Next Post: An interesting religious view on Evolution.

Arabs

Ive had the opportunity to hang out with a couple of guys from United Arab Emirates and guys from Oman these last couple of months. And i encountered some really interesting and different stuff about them which i thought of sharing. when i came here in 2005, i had two friends from Oman. This time theres a new guy from Oman and three guys from UAE. Obviously ive been spending more time with them than the aussie guys.....even though they talk in arabic most of the time and have no idea what the hell they are saying.hehe. But atleast they try to talk in English whenever im there.

During ramadan we had a little break fasting the five of us at one of their place. and they had this drink which was a substitute for the watermelon drinks we have back at home. the first time i drank it i didnt hesitate to try n gulp it all down as it looked like milk. wrong move! you shouldve seen the look on my face. The drink was creamy and yet spicy as well and to me it jes tasted aweful. apparently it was made of yogurt and they do mix some stuff in it. Apparently this was a traditional drink they had right after they broke their fast with dates. But all the maldivians say that its a "firihen beys".hehe. And they have a coffee of some sort. it was good i must say. but damn its so strong. they even serve it in these tiny little cups which look even smaller than those 'shot' glasses. maybe cos its strong. and it seems u shud have atleast three cups and when ur done, ur supposed to give the cup back to the person who served it to you while shaking the cup in ur hand which is a sign that ur done.

The most interesting thing i found is when they eat they put on this huge plastic sheet or sometimes newspaper on the floor(by floor i mean the rug or tiles ofcourse). They would then bring this huge tray filled with rice usually with the meat or curry poured on top in the centre. Then the guys would sit around it and go at it in the same tray while sitting on the floor. It seems thats how they eat even back at home with their families. everyone eating from the same tray.Like there'll be an area on the tray for each person and once uve emptied that bit u can bring in more from the centre.

I went to this gathering quite recently. it was actually a celebration. three of them had passed their final exams and had gotten their engineer certificates so they had made lamb for everyone and invited them over. Coincidentally i was doing group studies with two of them that day. so they dragged me along for this meal. There's this square shaped block of flats where all the arabs had rented apartments from. so the meal was at two adjoining apartments. most of them came wearing that arab outfit we usually see on the tellie. excluding the turban ofcourse. Here is the best thing ive seen among these guys. they were from both UAE and Oman, same region but different countries. and they had all met up only a day back at friday prayers. but when we went there, the hosts were standing outside and they were greeting everyone that came. the look on their faces. it seemed as if they hadnt met each other for ages. i felt as if they were all brothers from the same family who had met after a long gap in between. and its like this whenever they run into each other. i could pick up few of the stuff they were saying. and it wasnt like those usual greetings u get from the aussie folk where everyone merely asks "hey! hows it going?". they had these huge smiles and kept asking each other what they had been upto, laughing and really enjoying the conversations. some of them teasing the others.

The group of about 20guys were divided into the two apartments which had two trays each. so five guys for each tray. they were all laughing, teasing andd having a great time even while eating. when we were done we all moved into one apartment where we had dessert. even for dessert, spoons were handed out and the sweets or trays of pudding or so were kept at the centre and each one would take a spoonful each time while chatting away. What came next was pretty interesting as well. There was this vase shaped thing which had a burning piece of coal or sumthing in it. they poured some powder onto it and this smoke started rising from it continuously. Reminded me of the prophets's series they show during ramadan where Abrahama's grandfather was in his chamber praying.hehe. anyways it seems this was some kind of perfume. it was passed around the room like the red indians passed the pipe. and each one would coat himself with the fumes and pass it to the next. seems it was a traditional thing. Then came that coffee.hehe. and loads of those small cups passed around and one guy pouring coffee for everyone. it was fun considering the fact that i didnt understand 95% of the conversations they had when they spoke arabic.

Later on most of us went to the cinema to watch "Body of lies". nice movie i must say. so overall, i think they are pretty interesting people, even the way they uphold their traditions. Most of it was really different from ours but the most wonderful thing i found was the brotherhood they had among themselves. It was the whole "my muslim brother" thing. i even had a few conversations with them about how their life is back in their countries. it was really interesting and different. but thats for some other post.

Gays

Something which ill never understand. Falling in love with and seeking a person of the same gender as a lover or partner. even some maldivians most of whom still cant even say it openly exposing themselves, actually support them. but those that do anonymously especially in blogs are saying "whats the big deal about it?". that if two ppl of the same gender love each other they should be able to live life as they like. thats its not a problem at all. and how much they have been fighting for those rights. and yada yada yada.

And heres my logic to it. its considered wrong for a man to go and have sex with an animal. why? cos its not human. so lets move on to humans. but it seems its not good to have sex with a child. ofcourse thats jes wrong. so how about a 50yr old man gettin it on with a 20yr old woman? or maybe a 20yr old guy with a 50yr old woman? u see where im getting at? so why are you against what ive jes mentioned? its jes wrong aint it? so a man having sex with another man.......does that sound right to u? o.O its jes wrong even health wise. so many complications are arising from it. but MAYBE like some ppl like to believe, IF we keep on having anal sex who knows. maybe one day the future generation of mankind would evolve in a way to accomodate for that as well. *whistle*

But seriously ppl. gays and lesbians? and speakin of lesbians here's something id like to point out which i have to give credit to women. when men hear about lesbians over 90% of the male population doesnt think its disgusting at all. and more than 90% of the male population thinks a guy on a guy is simply disgusting. BUT when women are asked the question one would like to think they would be pretty much the same as a difference that it would be opposite. but thats not how it is right? with women they seem to like the thought of lesbians a hell lot more than the idea of a guy on another guy. raises alot of questions now doesnt it? *whistle whistle* and ive met quite a number of women who actually openly admit that they dont get disgusted on the idea of lesbians and some say that they wouldnt mind trying it out. whereas with guys its a completely different case when talking about a guy with a guy. is this the point where im gonna be told that its happening because women are more open and guys arent?

So those ppl who actually support gay rights and all, why do u support them and if u really do, why cant u say it out in the open? and why is it among a gay couple that they actually have a need for one of them to be the husband and the other the wife? and pls tell me that you dont really think theres nothin wrong with that pic up there?

and this is in reply to something paperclippenny mentioned in the comments. i know that different ppl will have different likes or views on diff matters. one might think the best profession is being a doctor while others might think something else. one might like the colour blur while the other red. one might believe wearing "jubbaa" is a must while others dont. but there are some things where each and everyone of us draws a line. for me this gay thing is one of them. i dont agree with drinking, choosing different religions, using drugs etc etc. but ive got friends who do so. but that does not mean id treat them any differently or hold grudges against them. as long as they dont try to influence me or others into it, its their own thing. and i agree with what u said about "as long as they are not forcing themselves on the innocent". but boasting and being proud about it to the point on having parades, making out in the open, dressing up(more liking undressing up) for such occassions...thats jes too much.

And like anonymous has said it. how sure are we that people we know arent going to get dragged into it. all i know is that a guy would love to have many girls around. pretty sure gays would want the same thing. how many ppl do u think would get dragged into it. every thing is taken step by step. look back a few years. there was a time when "hanee" was pretty much the only gay person we heard of in Maldives. thats not the case now is it? how long do u think it would take maldives to reach the state America or Thailand is in right now, with gay marriages, gay get togethers, transexuals etc etc? not to mention the fact that most of us are starting to believe that progress involves acceptance and rights for people to live any way they wanna live. freedom of this and that. first off sure, we would be thinking its ok for us as long as we dont get dragged into it. im sure most ppl in america and thailand were thinking the same thing a couple of years back. *shrug* all im saying is that there's always a boundary and in my views this is crossing that boundary and more ppl should be aware of it.

Time to change back into who we are again.

Another ramadan is over and eid is here again. time for all those lousy messages which makes u feel like ur reading through a couple of forward mails. Please try something new or think up of something instead of forwarding last years ones. and i guess its time for people to show their true colours once again.

Overall, i guess it was an ok ramadan, though i do have my regrets. didnt feel like ramadan. maybe cos i was too busy to actually feel hungry. uni from mornin 9 till 5 and then breakin fast at 5:45. doesnt leave much time to think "hey, i havent eaten anything all day". and as far as the religious bits are concerned i must say i aint proud of myself at all this year. no excuses either. but theres nothin like waking up early morning on Eid and having that cup of coffee after takin that 30day break. Sigh. im actually looking forward to it. and i guess Eid wont be like eid at all this year as its in the middle of the weekdays and we'd be at uni the whole day. oh well, what to do. but then again, even if we were in male' we'd be stuffing ourselves the whole day.hehe. but i must say that im gonna miss those old songs they show on tv each year. those are some good songs.anyways, jes wanted to wish everyone a happy Eid and hope u got the most out of this year's ramadan unlike me.anyone up for the "haroadha" this year?

Lailathul Qadhr

Something that ive been wondering about for a few years now but never really talked about until now. we all have heard and know about "lailathul Qadhr" right? the night thats said to be more blessed than a 1000months. the night that the Holy Quran was blessed upon the human race. the night where angels including Gabriel would descend down to the Earth. Its this very special night that comes during the last 10days of ramadan said to be one of the odd nights. so here's my question.

For example lets imagine that tonight is "lailathul Qadhr" as most ppl seem to say so (27th night). if its night time at any one point on the earth, it will be daytime in another, afternoon , evening and even dawn in some parts of the world. so how can that be? so is "lailathul Qadhr" a 24hour time period? but then why do we refer to it as a NIGHT? In response some ppl would surely say that it would be the 27th night in each of these places on the globe. but then again while the 1st of september is the first of ramadan for some countries, other countries are experiencing through falakee ilm that its the 2nd or maybe the last day of the previous month. so doesnt this mean that the 27th of ramadan wouldnt coincide even on the same day to most of the countries?

By all means im not trying to belittle it, but more trying to understand it. so can anyone shed some light onto this topic. because the problem with most ppl nowadays is that they dont question stuff about our religion like they should. i mean they should discuss it and try to reason with it. because if they have confidence in their beliefs, they shouldnt be afraid of it feeling like ur being a "munaafigu" if ur questioning or inquiring about anything in our religion. so please would someone care to shed some light on this topic?

The Weirdest and most Terrifying experience

Happened last night. was up to eat 'haaru' and my usual midnight chat. then after a phone conv tried to get some sleep before i had to wake up again in about 3hrs time. my room has a sliding door meaning it cant be locked. and the door is about 3feet from the bed. and i always turn off all the lights leaving jes the laptop light which too i keep tured around in the other direction.

You know that feeling you get when you know someone is outside your door? that moment right before someone would open the door. i had closed my eyes for about 5seconds when i had that feeling. and instantly i felt this strange feeling all over my body. its hard to describe as its never happened before in my life. but here goes. it felt like every inch of my body was being pressed down by this force. kind of like the water pressure that presses u inwards when u dive deep down. similar to that but on a much larger scale. i couldnt move at all. it was followed by the sound of the door sliding open. but like i said before i couldnt move a muscle. the first thing that crossed my mind was "im dying!". just like that. it really felt like it. i tried to open my eyes to no avail. i didnt even know if i was breathing. but i was certain that someone or something came in through the door and was probably standing next to me. i was scared shitless. i didnt wanna die.

after abt 2 seconds or so of struggling to move a muscle i was able to open my eyes....just a bit though. it was dark and instantly that force which had me pressed down vanished jes like that. but i couldnt keep my eyes open for long and the second my eyes closed that feeling came back again. i felt helpless and was ready to scream out by now. i wanted to run away, as far away as i could. thats when i heard a voice say "im coming for you" followed by a soft laugh. then i heard the door sliding again, probably closing this time and just like that the feeling of constriction disappeared and i was able to move again. i jumped up out of bed and sat there not knowing what to do or even what to think. i was trying to convince myself that it was only a dream.i wasnt sweating. my heard wasnt racing. infact i didnt feel anything except fear. and its easy to know what a dream is the minute you wake up from it. and that was no dream. lots of different and rather weird explanations raced through my head.

i wasnt gonna tell anyone about it. it didnt make sense even to me. and the obvious explanation anyone would give is "it was just a dream" or "it was all in your head". nevertheless i thought id write about it in a post atleast to remind myself what had happened before i soon forgot about it.

P.S- there are some bits and pieces ive intentionally left out

Storm and Fire

One of my favourite music pieces. Its without the vocals though. heres a link to one with the voalcs(storm and fire). Its "A Song of Storm and Fire" from the anime series "Tsubasa Chronicles". Enjoy! :)

Kidnapped to be raped and then murdered

You know how such stuff as lying and cheating and stealing something is considered as really bad stuff to us. like if we know someone who does or has done it, it automatically changes our view of the person(to most of us anyway). and then this thought goes through our heads "what the hell is wrong with him/her? how could he/she even think of doing that?". thats a bad person for you right there. one you'd take caution from that point on.

I went to see a doc the other day and while waiting, i opened up this magazine. There was a topic which read "the beast of Germany"(dont quite remember the country name). so i skipped to that page and read an interview of a 20yr old girl who had testified against an individual. it was her story of the worst time of her life.

She had testified against someone who was an unemployed father(of someone else ofcourse). this guy had kidnapped her off the streets when she was 12years old(yep, this report was made a couple of years after the incident). she was kept in a small dark basement with a chain around her neck. the guy would occasionally bring her out of there to his bedroom only to rape and torture her. he made her believe that he had kidnapped her for a ransom but her parents didnt want her back. he even allowed her to write to her mom, only to not send those letters and then come tell her that her mom never replies. apparently this man had done the same with THREE other girls and when he was done with them, he killed them all. he was involved with selling off small kids as well as making torture movies etc with kids in em.

This got me thinking(never a good thing). we live in a world where we know all of this happens and even worse. yet we dont think much of it. maybe cos it hasnt happened to someone close. but then again it has happened to a few of us. what is it that drives a person to go to this extent? i mean here we are complaining about lies and cheating and small time stealing while stuff similar to these are happening around us even in male'. its somewhat understandable what drives a person to steal and such. but child abusing? what does the person hope to achieve from that? especially in this age of prostitution and such.

An uncle of mine was one day talking with an inmate who had just been released from prison. they were talking about those child abusers that were put away in prisons. how all the other prisoners always give them a hard time(they deserve it if you ask me). and seems this guy went and spoke with one of them asking him the same question i asked previously. "Why do you do it? what drives you to it? is it because your wife doesnt have sex with you? or is it because you dont enjoy it that much?". and the guy replies saying it wasnt such a reason. that his sex life with his wife or so is awesome. and that he honestly had no idea as to WHY he did what he did. that he couldnt even explain it himself. seems he's even asked himself that question several times but he just couldnt figure it out. so what is it that drives these people to do it? and i wont be surprised if one day people would start calling that too a disease or a part of those people like they now do with homosexuals and so n so.

Time to temporarily stop drinking, having sex and remember that ur a muslim.

well, its here again. the month where muslims get reminded to which religion they belong to. time to temporarily stop all the drinking, all the sex and TRY to fast. well, this is the truth of most muslims now aint it? not a single prayer the whole of the year and as soon as ramadan arrives its time to START. i guess its atleast better that it DOES happen for one month a year than not happening at all. and ofcourse we DO encounter those sneaky bastards who claim to be fasting but the minute everyone is out of sight consumes some food item. i guess its more common in the islands where they can actually go in groups to the woods with a loaf of break and some canned tuna. *whistle whislte* hehe.

something we witness each year during ramadan. fist 10days, mosques overloaded. second 10days, ppl reduced by half and final 10days a 50% increase. wonder if we're gonna witness the same thing this time.

And jes imagine all those guys who'se only been married for a few months or years. after breaking the fast they will have to apparently go to 'sleep' since they didnt sleep the previous night or so what they say. heheh. come on ppl, we know what its abt, no need for all those xcuses jes go for it. ;) uve waited a whole day anyway.

Mustnt forget. the parteys are once again at it to show that ramadan is the best month for theft. out of the 12months in each year, it now seems that ramadan is the month where the biggest robberies are happening. best month for prayers as well as the best month for theft :). wont be surprised if those guys fast and pray as well. lol. i guess maldives surely has upheld the saying "monkey see, monkey do" to a new level when it comes to religion.

But something that i didnt expect to see here. we've got a small mosque here where all the diff muslims(even if i say all its just about 40ppl) from different countries gather for friday prayers. thats when the mosque would be full(yea, small mosque). but when ramadan started the mosque is full every night for 'tharaaveeh' prayers. thats about at 20:15 by which time its freezing cold outside. but still all these ppl make it there. that sure was a surprise. so i guess its not all hopeless. hope it lasts till the end of ramadan.

"At night when its all dark, even if only one candle is burning it seems so bright and seems like so much around it is lit". ill leave the interpretation to you.

When you get to say "HA! TOLDYA!"

Sigh! *evil smile*
You jes gotta love that feeling you get when u get a chance to say "Hahaha. i TOLDYA!!"
Some ppl like finishing it there but me, i like to rub it in. i mean come on. enjoy that feeling while it lasts. look at it this way. A lot of shit happens. there's alot of disputes as to whose right and whose wrong, whose cheating, whose lying etc etc. u know how the charade goes. Before you know it you get dragged in and asked to take the witness stand. The interrogation starts. You say what you have to or tell it as how it happened to you. some call it explaining their side of the story. soon u feel an opposition against what u said. You then end up being called a liar etc etc. the drama drags on and on. so you jes say what you have to and then walk away.

Days pass by. Sometimes months. the truth finally comes out and your moment arrives. the moment which shows that you were right all along. and the opposition party is forced to face the truth. sometimes after theyve made an utter fool of themselves. But most of the time itll take a few days for the news to reach you. Because ofcourse, after all the unnecessary mess that had been created we humans find it oh so hard to go upto that person and say "You were right! Im sorry i doubted what you said and created such a charade". We have too much pride to go through with all that. Most of us try to forget the incident ever happened and tries to be civil with that person. But nevertheless, that news has a way of finding you. and when it does, you look into the mirror and see an evil smile that had formed which you have no control over. and a sentence or two forms in ur head as if a passing thought. such a wonderful feeling. Enjoy it while it lasts.

I know i know. its not such a good thing to rub it in. but still its worth it. i mean come on. After all the mess and ruckus that usually happens, the person usually cant even bring himself/herself to make an apology. and ur jes supposed to go "its ok, u dont have to say anything. i totally understand why u did this and that. the reasons for all the doubts and all the stupid lame ass choices u made. but its all in the past now and all is forgiven. so lets pretend it never happened and ill once again put myself in a position for you to do it all over again in yet another situation". get my drift? so atleast have the satisfaction of rubbing it in and letting out any stuff that u mightve been holding in before going there. ;)

Secret Pass

Here’s a small discussion that had happened concerning the whole secrecy issue. Btw, the people or incidents mentioned are all made up. If they weren’t made up, ill simply say “all characters, incidents and implications are made on purpose” :)

Say Ahmed goes and tells a secret of his to a friend(Ali) in total confidentiality. And then Ali decides to go and tell it to Hawwa saying it’s a story abt Ahmed. Ahmed one day finds out and “how could u Ali? I trusted u! U betrayed my trust, yada yada..”. then Ali goes to Hawwa and says “How could you Hawwa? I trusted u! U betrayed my trust, yada yada..”.

Now what we don’t get is, why the hell is Ali so furious with Hawwa? “U betrayed my trust”?? Duuude, u did the same thing so quit whining and trying to make a big issue out of it. First realize that before u go off barking at others.
Now we go to Ahmed. His justification for telling the secret is, “Ali is a close friend of mine, but still this was understandable. He even tells me about the secrets of other ppl as well”. Helloooo? Isn’t that enough reason for u NOT to tell him ur own secrets? Ok, he’s ur friend. SO heres what u do. Hang out with him, have fun, listen to his stories, be the understanding friend. BUT make sure that when u tell him something of urs, that its something he could never use against u. doesn’t matter how close a friend he is. NEVER trust anyone to that extent. Even ur gf’s and bf’s. jes look around u. ppl are breaking up all the time. Then theres the huge probability that they’d go off and tell their friends and their new loved ones about u and ur secrets. Im not saying not to trust anyone. Jes keep it at a limit. Be aware of what ur sharing and what u aren’t.

Something admirable about guys. I guess it’s a guy thing. Yea, most of us do talk abt stuff within a particular group of guys. They share pretty much everything. The admirable part is that it stays within the group. Lets say one guy in the group is having probs with his wife. He comes and shares it with the rest of the group. They all listen and then give him advice on what he could do. He goes and tries it out and everybody is happy. Now the others in the group, they might talk abt it among themselves when the bloke who is having problems aint there. But they’ll never share it with someone outside the group. I think that’s the best u can expect from people. Don’t hold on to that holy statement of urs “How could you? I trusted u! U betrayed my trust” and then jes go around telling stuff about urself which u don’t want others to know of. The funny thing is most of the time these so called secrets have been told by that person to over 20ppl or so. hehe. And STILL he expects every one of them to never tell a soul. Lol. Yes! Sometimes ur closest friends will talk abt u among themselves when ur not there. Live with it. Cos u do the same. Jes make sure it doesn’t leave that group. U aren’t satisfied with that? Theres always something else u could do as well. Don’t tell ANYONE :p

So heres the conclusion we came to.
*if someone tells u upfront that what he’s about to tell u is a secret or if its something personal about that person, shut ur mouth and keep it a secret even from ur closest friends. There’s a reason why ur friend chose to tell u and not the rest.
*if u decided to go tell a friend about someone else, accept that its probably gonna be heard by someone else as well and then go tell it. Don’t expect it to be a secret anymore.
*And if u wanna tell a secret about urself to a friend, make sure ur friend understands that its supposed to be a secret. Don’t jes go rattle off something about urself and expect him to understand that it’s a secret.
*one last thing. Something u can follow. “If u tell me a secret in total confidentiality, ill treasure it always. But If I find out about something which u chose NOT to tell me, don’t be surprised if I go and tell a bunch of ppl about it. And u DON’T get to use ur holy line cos u chose not to tell me and I found out on my own :)”

And I must say, a lot of guys follow that. Especially keeping stuff within a group. Though there are some who goes against that guy thing in hopes of getting laid or scoring big with the chicks. Heheh. But that’s another topic.

Note: well, we are all thinking it so here’s what Wikipedia has to say abt it.
“Gossip is idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others. But gossip has recently come to the attention of academia as a fruitful avenue of study, particularly in light of its relationship to both overt and implicit power structures.”

Dedicated to you

You and me said the raindrop to the seed.
We’d make a winning team wont we
Cos when I fall down
Ull become a pretty flower
And ill be finally free
From the shackles of this cloud
And the sun will shine
And we’ll make the most of life
Come we haven’t got much time
Cos all living things must die
But I will nurture u till ur petals turn to white
And u will hold me close untill the last drop of me dries

Cos u and me
We have each other
And that’s all we need
The place ill call my home is anywhere that u will be
U and me will never make a mark on the shape of history
But im glad u came to make ur mark on me

So darling when I lie down I hope ull be around
To lay ur roses down over me
Cos I will never keep to watch u fall asleep
I wouldn’t last a day without u standing next to me
From a satellite lens we are jes a tiny speck
Over little consequence
In the great scheme of things
From down here
In this tiny little sphere
The colours are at focus
And the pictures crystal clear

Cos u and me
We’ve got each other
And that’s all we need
The place ill call my home is anywhere that u will be
U and me will never make a mark on the shape of history
But im glad u came to make ur mark on me

-???-

Exams

FINALLY!!! its over.....for the time being anyway. god i hate this new system. Seven Subjects for that sememster. the notes are made into a text book for each subject. well, for Electronic Navigation we had three text books which came to a thickness of over 7cms total(yea, i measured,hehe). 10 text books total and all of it taught within 2months. And as soon as those 2months are over on comes the exams. the main exams were ALL held in 5days. and to make matters worse half of them had a pass percentage of 70%. O.O atleast even if we fail we do get one resit provided we scored above 50%. u fail that one and thats it. do the whole course again next year. hehe. and starting tomorrow its another new NINE subjects. O.O too bad they are extending this course by another three months starting next batch and not our one.

BRIDGE WATCHKEEPING
* Describe the obligation if any, of a power driven vessel that is proceeding along a TSS and it encounters a ship crossing from starboard to port which is posing a rick of collision? (5marks)

* Calculate the course that a ship steering 000 T would need to alter in order to show ONLY its sternlight to a ship that was on a steady bearing of 337.5 T. Assume alteration of course will be to starboard? (5marks)

COMMUNICATION PROCESS
* what is meant by "feedback" and "closed loop" in communication? (10marks)

* explain the difference in using the words "objective" and "subjective" in a phrase (10marks)

SHIP MANOEUVRE
* You are in a ship drifting with a 20knot breeze on the port beam. show the hydrodynamic forces when the vessel is stopped, given a kick ahead and when given a kick astern (10marks)

* explain the design features and effectiveness of a "becker rudder" and a "schilling rudder" (6marks)

METEOROLOGY
* List the 10main types of clouds according to the height of their base above surface (7marks)

* Show the location of the following currents on the attached blank world map showing clearly the direction of flow. also state whether they are cold or warm. (1)Gulf stream, (2)Brazilian, (3)Benguela, (4)Southern ocean drift, (5)Californian, (5)Aghulas (10marks)

MARINE QUALITY ASSURANCE
* Give the factors which give rise to conflicts and give the distinction betweem Functional and Dysfunctional conflicts (10marks)

* what are the qualities u would expect to find in a leader and how would those qualities be shown in that person's day to day activities. (10marks)

ELECTRONIC NAVIGATION
* list and explain the required operational warnings that an ARPA must provide along with the warnign icons that will be shown on the screen (6marks)

* Explain the different modes of the AIS(6marks)

VOYAGE PLANNING
* What are the main objectives of ship routeing or reporting systems?(10marks)

* use the following information plan a passage from the anchorage to the pilot boarding ground and draw it on the chart provided (50marks)

Hopefully i wont have to think abt any of those subjects for another 5months. whew.

Grace

http://youtube.com/watch?v=siNsgbIWhAQ Still the best damn vocalist. Jeff Buckley. been dead for over a decade but his songs never grow old. and here's one of his finest. "Grace" from the album "Grace". the lyrics maybe short but the song..... sigh. the song. :) seriously, listen to the song. Grace

There's the moon asking to stay
Long enough for the clouds to fly me away
Though it's my time coming, I'm not afraid, afraid to die
My fading voice sings of love,
But she cries to the clicking of time, Of time
Wait in the fire...

And she weeps on my arm
Walking to the bright lights in sorrow
Oh drink a bit of wine we both might go tomorrow,oh my love
And the rain is falling and I believe
My time has come
It reminds me of the pain
I might leave Leave behind
Wait in the fire...

And I feel them drown my name
So easy to know and forget with this kiss
But I'm not afraid to go but it goes so slow
Wait in the fire...

Succumbing to Urges (2 of 2)

A simple example. Look at the people that go abroad for studies. Those friends and relatives of yours that uve known your whole life. Those people that once upon a time shared talks about such issues and talked against it…some of them whose even preached about it. Then you see them finish their O’Ls and A’Ls and go abroad for further studies away from their families and relatives. After a year of living life on their own with almost total freedom, to be able to go to whore houses, to be able to go to the bar and buy drinks, to be able to bring whomever they want over to their own apartment where they’re alone to do whatever they want, and when they’re able to use weed etc without that fear in the back of their mind that a family member or relative might come in any moment.

After all that when you meet them and start to get to know that relative and friend what do you find out? That almost every single one of them have gotten into atleast one of the above mentioned. Some even all of it. And you can tell that somewhere within MOST of them, they feel guilty and ashamed about it. So much that they try everything they can to hide it from the people they hold dear. Even upto the point of taking extreme measures to ensure their secrets and im not talking about murder here. :p but doing unspeakable acts to top those ones they’ve already succumbed to. Or even minor ones where they make up lies about those people who know the truth and try to keep them away from those that haven’t seen what’s behind those curtains.

And when they explain their experiences this is how most of it goes.

*Alcohol: I went with my friends to a bar to have fun. They all drink but I never do. And anyway its not a problem for me to go to a bar as long as I don’t drink right? Im just there to have fun and help my friends out if they need me. I didn’t wanna be a spoil sport. I had full confidence that I wouldn’t succumb to it. But one day they offered me a drink. OR one day I was so messed up about my bf/gf/exams/life/blah/blah, I wanted to try it. To see what it was that was so addictive about it. To see why people seem to like it so much. So I thought id have just one drink and that was it. It went like that for a month or so and before I knew it I was one of the GANG. And they all cheered for me and was so proud. They liked me so much that they later even took me when they were going to use weed at a friends place. I felt so connected with my FRIENDS.

*Sex: I went out with my Maldivian friends among whom there were some chicks. We started talking and hanging out. She was having probs with her bf and I was having probs with my gf. We started talking and we found out that we had so much in common. And we were always there for each other whenever we needed it.(not to mention the fact that she was probably one of 3 maldivians that i even knew who lived there with me). One night she broke up with her bf and was crying. I went to console her and before we knew it one thing led to another. Back in male’ when I make out there was always that thought in the back of my head that someone might come in any minute. But that wasn’t there. And it felt great that I was free of it. Plus she was so hot when she was wearing those clothes she said she was ashamed to wear back home as people would tease her and cos her parents would feel ashamed. And she was so sexy the way she moved her humps when we danced at the disco which made me so hot for her. So we started making out and once you start its hard to stop. Before we knew it we were having sex. And boy was that feeling awesome. How can one EVER regret having sex.

Pretty much the same story as the first one for weed etc. for testing it out just once or to fit in. and once uve succumbed to it that conscience within you that gives you that guilty feeling slowly fades away and abandons you.

So I wonder how life would be if that situation were to arise. Im talking about the situation where alcohol and weed are readily available to anyone. Some of them can barely stand those urges even during the time they are back in male’ for holidays for a month or so. now lets imagine how life would be in Maldives or how the life of the Maldivians would be like in say 20years time. But that’s for another time I guess. Ive babbled enough for now. Hehe.

Succumbing to Urges (1 of 2)

Something that’s been on my mind for a few years now. While growing up you see almost everyone around you, your generation being all good and honest and blah blah blah. But after a certain time you see them slowly change. Some go into drugs, into prostitution, using weed, drinking alcohol, having sex and some even going towards other religions. Most of them ppl you’ve known your whole life and some even people whom you would never expect to go down that road. And we justify that change we see by telling ourselves “its part of growing up, they are finally letting go of the grip their parents have on them and they are finally making their own choices and decisions in life”. That they have that courage to follow the path they believe in. or does that happen mostly to Maldivians?

The main thing we see in Maldivians…..oh wait. Let me replace that word ‘see’. Cos the main thing we SEE ourselves going towards is probably drugs. But the main thing we KNOW ourselves going towards is sex. Well, no surprise there. I don’t think there’s anyone out there who doesn’t like sex in one form or the other. But I think the reason why we go towards it mainly is becos ppl expect us to do so. we see and try to live like the western world. Whenever we watch a movie or so we are made to believe that its just a simple part of life and simple part of growing up. Or how others like to label it as “exploring life and experimenting for oneself”.

We live in a community where everyone is now into it openly. We talk and some of us even boast about it among friends. We even tease those who aren’t into it. Whether if its cos they want others to join in so that no one can tell them its not right without being a hypocrite, or maybe they found out how wonderful it was and wanted their friends to experience that wonder as well. Wherever you turn to its there. For example if you’re in a relationship for 6months and you haven’t got laid you’re either gay or a pussy. Or atleast one of the couple will either reel the other into it or breakup if they don’t succeed after giving an innocent gold plated excuse. And some of us find ourselves getting into it after convincing ourselves by saying “all my friends are doing it. So why cant i? I don’t wanna be given a label and be teased anymore. Its just a part of growing up. I blame it all on hormones”.

Or maybe its just our weakness to try and do what we are told not to. Like some people who like to boast (whistle whistle) saying: “the food that you eat while fasting and in secret tastes so much better”. Or “you always love the stuff that you have stolen more than the ones you’ve bought”. Maybe its true. Or maybe that’s what they say to justify to themselves that what they’ve done aint wrong. As most of us have that sense which gives us that uneasiness and guilt when we’re about to do something wrong.

Or it might even be that sex is the one thing that’s most readily available to us. Its all around us and everyone’s doing it. And by sex ofcourse I’m not talking about the legal ones. We know that even most of the married couples some whom we might call aunts or uncles are having affairs of their own. Its one big secret that every Maldivian is aware of. So what if we could easily get alcohol and weed? Already there are lots of people who can get a hold of them. Mostly the people working in resorts and those seamen who go abroad in their work. but what if it was available to anyone who wants it? Ill bet within a year there will be new recruits that are more than twice the number of ppl that are already using them.

Why do I believe in God (2 of 2)

Im sure most of you are familiar with the water cycle, the revolution of the earth around the sun, the coming of night and day, the lifecycle of plants and animals of all sorts. Everything is in order which allows us to calculate time etc. so now it makes one wonder. If the chances of pulling out merely ten marbles in order is that big, what are the chances of all that ive explained happening in order? And those are just merely some examples. What about the way our hearts and minds work, our kidneys, how a baby is formed and born into this world, how he grows up. So many countless scenarios. And lets say even if we believe the ‘big bang’ theory, someone had to create that combustion. There are countless signs that a higher being or force is behind all of this. That all of this couldn’t have happened by random.

And I wonder. About the basic instincts we have when we are born. Not just humans but other living beings as well. Most living beings doesn’t need one to teach it how to survive, feed etc etc. Its as if all those information are automatically stored inside them when they come into this world. Or lets take humans in another example. When we are doing something, instinctively we know if what we are doing is right or wrong. We have that feeling within us. That which distinguishes stuff for us. That awareness and reasoning. We all seem to be governed by some law.

Well, I was gonna stop here but lets ask ourselves a further question. When we see a car, building , a clock etc we automatically consider the person or company that designed it or manufactured it etc. you would NEVER think that it created itself or came to be by chance or just happened to be there. Lets make this more simpler. Lets say you were walking down a field and you saw a mobile phone lying there on the ground. Would you think that it was always there? No you wont. Instead you would KNOW that someone left it there or lost it. Why? Because its not part of the natural landscape. It has been obviously designed by someone and lost by someone. And this is a simple thing. Its not like the human eye or the sun for instance. So how could someone believe that the mobile phone had a designer but the universe or everything else in it doesn’t have a designer and that it all just came about randomly.

And one final example. Think about the brain, how it thinks and how it functions. How it analyses, stores information, retrieves information, distinguishes light and categorizes information in a millionth of a second. Think of how the brain does that constantly. This is the brain that made that mobile phone, those buildings, those robots and all those amazing creations by man. So is it logical to say that all those stuff were designed by the man and his brain, but that brain doesn’t have a designer? That it too goes into the category of ‘chance’? I think that’s more than enough reason for one to believe that there is a higher being behind all these or atleast for one to start thinking about it.

P.S- This is the point where I try to link it all to the quran which was sent over 1400years ago before man found out abt all these through science. But I was asked not to talk about the prophets, about the quran or the afterlife. So I guess ill have to leave the next part aside.