Wednesday, November 28, 2007
Quit yapping
Met a woman who once kept complaining that she cant have a job because her husband didnt want her to. Seems her husband was working his arse off so that money wont be an issue and so that his wife wont have t work. But she was complaining how unfair and sexist it was that she cant work. Complaining about her rights and all. well, she's working now. her wish came true some time back. But NOW, she's complaining that because of her work she is finding it hard to do house chores and how her husband should do sumthing about that too. If she hadnt gone to work that problem would never have risen. quit complaining and quit ur yapping already. Beynunhaa gothakah kanthakeh nuvaaneyey.
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aan ..beynun haa gothakah kanthah thakeh abdhaku nuvaane dho
but i wud love to be a housewife rather than goin to work everyday morning
i wud like to b someone who earns without workinig
dont we all my friend. dont we all.
well... i tend to agree with the woman... but i guess it depends on the society one is living in...
it is the expectation of the society i live in. Neither stay home husbands nor house wives are appreciated that much here...
I am absolutely seething with anger right now. (deep breath)
I know the main point of this article is: People always want something else than what they get. So they should not complain.
But, you also imply that if a woman chooses to work, and therefore cannot do her household chores, she should not work at all. Therefore, you place the woman at the head of the household. Everything in her life is secondary to her husband and household.
I think she has every right to complain. Her husband cannot stop her from working. It is not his choice. Secondly, she is right- if she is working in the public sphere just like her husband is, he needs to help her at home too. In her case, she has double the work- her work and her responsibilities of house keeping. Isn't a marriage a compromise?
Women do not want to mollycoddled. We want to be people who are useful and people who can contribute. We too need to have the right to make our own choices. What we wear, what kind of work we want to do, who we want to marry etc. the household is not just our responsibility. It is the mens too.
If these are the opinions of those who remotely represent the moderate of our society, we are doomed!
@anonymous: i understand what ur trying to say and i must agree with u on that. and its good that u acknowledged the main point of the post. and in regards to what u said i have to say that i somewhat disagree. the husband is already working his arse off to get money for both of them. so in light of his wife's choice i believe he should atleast forgoe the extra work he is currently doing so that he will be able to contribute to the house work. and i dont believe when men are to contribute to house work it necessarily means that he has to go into the kitchen and cook. but in a marriage there should be in somewhat of an understanding as to how the husband and wife are going to contribute.
My parents for example, my mom is a house wife. and my dad works all day long. he is sometimes able to come back home at night. but STILL he goes to buy fish and other such groceries and for the shopping. Plus involved with going to pay the bills etc. and on fridays he is involved with any maintenance needed at home or any extra cleanup. and he does all this work on the one day that he is free from work. the only free time he gets is late at night after coming back from work exhausted for about 3hrs or so....during which most of the time he is involved with something relatd to his work.so in my opinion even if my mom decides to work, it does not mean that my dad has to do all the stuff he is currently doing PLUS do his share of cooking. yes, its my mom's choice and right if she wants to work. but she should also know about something called 'sacrifice'. u need to make sacrifices in marriage and let go of some things that u desire. jes how many stuff is my dad already giving up jes so that he could support the family? im sure that he would have his own interests, hobbies, entertainment etc. or does all those rights of his go out the window the minute my mom decides that she would like to work so that she wont be bored at home? u get my drift dho?
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