Was reading thru some of the old mail ive got which i havent yet come up to deleting and it got me thinking(yea, not good at all). U know those friends of urs with whom u have disagreements n so n so. instead of staying quiet and letting him learn the hard way u go and tell it to his face and explain everything to him honestly, even if its something he doesnt wanna hear. even if ur risking ur friendship by telling him. so u tell him. he gives u a lecture of ur life saying that ur an SOB etc etc. that its none of ur business. in short he forgets everything that has happened between u two, forgets everything uve done for him and just starts calling you filth and so many other things which he never should say.
After a few days or so he finds out that everything u said was true. that u were just doing the right thing since he was ur friend and cos u didnt want him to get hurt or so. now this is where the whole point of this post comes. what does he do?
a)apologise to u for not listening back then and for all the filth he screamed at u
b)pretend nothing ever happened
c)continue not talking to u even after he realises the truth
what would u do? and how would u react if this happened between u n a friend? what does it say about someone if he doesnt pick optin (a)?
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great week
i guess ill take (a)
but it won't probably happen between anyone and i anyway
hehe
and if he chooses b or c then dho, if he chooses c, no need of explaining
b negiyas no need ennu!
nubai echekey liyevijje thiree baiga! nus gulhey dho,
dhen nuvisneyne :S
i take the three options... they are the three stages which i would be following
i have been through this experience quite a few times... I always confront the person if i think that they are doing something wrong or harmful. Then i leave it to them to listen or not...
sooner or later my friends come around and understand but my motto has always been that it is better to lose the friendship than the friend
:-)
Thats why I don't make friends outside the "core group". ;)
a is the chouce
i wud take a if the person is worthwhile.. depends on the person hama :P
well for ppl who doesnt take a and who is supposed to take a i wud call them cowards ekam ves
hama adhives buneveynee depends on the person ey
atleast for me
if someone treated me like shit during those days it wud take me sometime to forgive them too. thats why. and if i treated someone like that then i wud go and apologise and i wud and have to understand if the other person is mad dho..
nice post
Different people react in different ways to situations, and they deal with things differently. all three choices are valid human responses. I think the key is in letting go, not judging people on how they respond to a certain situation, since its just one aspect of the whole person, and just one point in life of the person or persons involved. If the person is important enough for you, not matter his or her response, you would continue to be friends woudn't you? So whats the point of going through the whole process of analysing how or why he or she responded in a certain way?
Boils down to how you recieve the response or the lack of response. It all about your own expectations!
(a) was the obvious answer almost everyone would choose. the whole point of this post was to see who would think differently to that and its athena. that was the comment i was looking for. was actually starting to wonder if the post was in vain.
and if u must know, im still friends with that person cos thats the kind of person she is. someone who doesnt regret the decisions she makes in life but learns from the stuff that has happened and tries not to let it repeat. it wouldnt make that huge a diff even if she did apologise. cos its not gnna change what has happened. although im not saying that it wont make any difference if she apologised or not. cos it would mean alot. but i dont believe that a friendship so strong that has formed between two ppl should be thrown away jes like that cos of an incident which ended in her not apologising about something like that. its just her. and even if she didnt apologise, its obvous that she's sorry about what happened.we shouldnt expect ppl to react the way we would in a situation. everyone is different in their own way. which now brings me to my next post.
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