A girl calls u after midnight. she's one of those friends who tells u everything even about the problems she has with her boyfriend and stuff not another soul in the world knows about. uve been giving advice to her on her asking for over a week now. she totally agrees with u everytime and is determined to follow the advice. but at the very moment of following that advice, she hesitates and does it her way(the way that had been talked with me that should NOT be done).
The moment she starts explaining stuff u complete it all for her before she could finish which turns out to be exactly what had really happened. U give her a huge lecture for her change in her decision. U tell her what the consequences are gonna be. she doesnt listen. says it wont happen.
She calls u again after a few days after midnight jes like that and says everything is great. that life had never been better. that u had been wrong for the first time ever. u dont believe her. and u give her the lecture of her lifetime pointing out that she aint happy. that this and that is probably happening to her now. and the reason why she called u at that time was becos something was really bothering. and after the long, harsh lecture she starts crying. and says that u were right from the beginning. that everything uve said that night in the lecture and the previous nights were all true. that the consequences u had referred to b4 had now come her way.
What do u do? do u say "i told u so" and give another lecture? or do u say "its alright" and keep on giving advice knowing that she would probably do the same jes like all the girls have been doing so far over and over again? do u get frustrated that the same shit repeats over n over again? Do u feel that they will never understand it and accept it the easy way instead of "bondi boyegen"? Or do u continue what uve been doing in the hopes that some other girl would listen to u or the ones who hadnt before would do it from hence forth? Do u stop giving a damn about them and say "they should deal with their own shit"?
11 comments:
that sux..actually theres nuthing you can do..u have done what you are supposed to do..now its her turn..she shud think and come up with a decision..the best decision.. ^.^
yeaa.. agrees wit shweet
hell with them! not all are the same that much i accept. but ven it comes to givin advice, no one ever bothers to listen. sure they'll say yes n yes ven you're lecturing her. but the moment she hungs up the phone n sees lil ol boyfrend. she wnt remember half of what u sed. the cycle continues as u've experienced first hand. why are u wasting your efforts???
i think u shud help her as much as u can
ekam she does all the actions and u cant control it much dho
dhenn.. neynge :S
i agree with shweet and lill girl
it totally depends on the worth of a person.
If the person is worth it, you stick to them because you are a true friend.
But then again, there are some people who are not worth our time at all.
Make a wise choice.
shweeeet,lil girl and asphysiator: yea she shud. she's jes finding it hard to let go i guess.holding on too tight.will learn though, one way or the other.bondieh nuboe visnijjeyaa rangalhu kithamme haaves.
misraabu: seems like u understand what im talking about quite well. i dont think its a waste though. even if their situation rarely changes, those ppl treasure me and trust me even more than their bf's/ gf's. and some of them have indeed listened,even if its jes a handful.and i guess thats who i am.hehe. im not manly enough. lol. ;)
mini: i am helping her. situation has worsened as well. she's now admitted in the hospital. i was the first person she called the min she got the fone. guess i shud be flattered by that. she seems to be doing ok now.and to think she hasnt even met me face to face yet. maybe thats why. *whislte whistle*
raaji: im not a 100% sure abt the worth part yet. like i said before, we jes chat and talk on the fone.its gonna be totally a different scenario after we actually meet dho? dhen only we'll get to know the real person.hopefuly will meet her in about 2months. :D
Here's one BIG reason why I shun all social contact. But you're a good man, I know you've got too much of a big heart to just leave her hanging.
(Sorry if I sounded like an ass.)
dude..i'm the same sorta situation!:S there's gal..a close friend i know who does the same thing. she tells me everything and after i give her all the right advice,..she screws up...over and over and over again! hrrgh! sumtimes i just wana bitch slap some sense into her...lol..BUT i just put on the fake smile n send the raging shivers down to my toes.
i say just be the kind of people that we are! because though they are stupid (elaborates on stupid), still we are the ones they turn to when they want to ease the pain. And as far as i know..thats a good thing! :)
theme song of the moment!
Avril lavigne - keep holding on
listen to the song..u'll know what i mean :p
hehe i think i know who u mean dude...and dont worry she is worth i t...so jes be there for her..remember once u told me u wernt looking for advice..jes needed sum1 to talk to ..maybe its the same case there...or both...and u know advce dhee dhee if u need therapy jes call me :D..muahaha...i giv great advice ennu *smug smile*
@shadowrunner: nope u didnt. u complimented me.heheh. thanx. :D I know i have a big heart. been realising it more n more lately cos of all the shit thats been hapening. bwahaha. hehe
@shan: hehe. so true so true. sometimes its a good feeling to know that ppl depend on ur in their worse times. then other times it jes makes u feel crap when they dont take the advice and then they screw up jes like we warned them.never learns.
@nur:yep, she's worth it. one reason y im still at it u know. even now.if i need therapy jes to call u huh?hehe. u know i do. ur one of the very few 'lucky' ones that get to ease this shit filled brain.lol. LUCKYYYY UUUU. ;)
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