He goes out to work everyday and meets single women of all ages and in this society we live in age difference is no longer an issue. Not to mention the fact that women seem to be getting much hotter as the newer generations come to age. So the women he meets at his work place or elsewhere are much younger, hotter, erotic and more tempting than his wife had ever been. And nowadays its not rare to see women hitting on men. We see it all the time. Not to mention married men even having sex with girls of only 18yrs old…..with them knowing that the guy is married. Girls are hitting on older men with higher paying salaries and the above average ranking men in society as well. Afterall, women want someone who can take care of them and make their lives easier. Plus the guy keeps on making empty promises about how he’s gonna divorce his wife for this girl and blah blah blah, which the girl foolishly falls for later on justifying to herself that she was jes young and “growing up”.
Sooner or later the guy breaks and gives in to his lust. The title “married” doesn’t stop him anymore. “No one needs to know” comes into play. And once he starts he cant stop anymore. Better yet most men get away with it for years to come. In the rare occasion he does get caught that’s when he can once again use his kids to his advantage. Now the wife is thinking “what would happen to my kids if I get a divorce now? I have to think about them and stop being so selfish. Not just that. What about me? Im not half as attractive as I used to be. Who would take me if I leave my husband? I would most probably be a single mother my whole life. I can somewhat understand that it is my fault as well. Afterall, im not able to satisfy him fully anymore”. So then the husband jes tells her that he wont cheat on her again, makes a few promises, has sex with her a couple of times and then when all is forgiven he’s back at it again.
The wife cant even complain anymore, cos as soon as the husband realizes he is in power or that she is in need of him, he starts taking advantage of it. It might be unintentional at first. He is rarely home, there’s arguments all the time, threats of divorcing her. Some other single men actually take advantage of this critical time of arguments and so and so to make empty promises to these women. Women rarely tell their female friends that her husband isn’t sleeping with her anymore. So when this new guy shows an interest in her, she spills out all her sorrows onto him. In return the guy keeps assuring her that she is extremely hot and that he would do her any day. When this goes on for a while, she then has sex with him out of insecurity and to get that old rush back. But almost every single time in the end the guy leaves her when he has had his fill and she is back in her hopeless marriage regretting what she had done but unable to tell anyone about it out of shame. She starts wondering what in the world happened to that wonderful man she fell madly in love with and got married to. But now its too late for that and its now time to cherish those good times and accept the current one saying that its jes how life works.
But if she is lucky sex with that single guy turns out great which leads to it repeating over and over again. and if everything works out well(rarely does) she now has the upper hand over her husband and wont hesitate to get a divorce. Because by now this single guy is willing to marry her if she gets a divorce. But she can never be sure until she gets that divorce. And the thought that “he approached and had sex with a married woman. What’s going to stop him from doing it with someone else after he marries me?” doesn’t come to mind. Even if it does, it is easily brushed off with the justification “what we have is different and special. He truly loves and cares for me”.
And it feels as if things would be a lot worse lets say 10-20 years from now as nowadays cheating is a very common thing even among relationships as most of them are aware that they can get away with it. And now its not jes men, but even women are at it. So jes imagine how they would be a couple of years from now when they all get married and have kids of their own.
I realize that the post is quite pessimistic but then again this is indeed what happens to the majority of marriages even if the whole cycle doesn’t complete. Atleast most people have the luxury to live blindly and not even be aware that either their husband or wife cheats on a regular basis which actually might be a good thing that its not found out. *shrug*
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can't disagree with ya. but havta
say this is lots of generalising...
lemme add another pattern that i see
this happens befor the marriage:
the gal keep dating a guy for years and there is olways the second guy who keep asking gal's lov..
the first guy break up with da gal and it wud take around two three months for the gal n second guy to get hooked n married.
After marriage:
and after an year or so, the first guy n gal wud get in to an affair with each other again..
Kaiza,
Abso-fucking-lutely lovely..
Your pessimism is acceptable but very off putting for someone who might believe in a good life..
Wanting to comment more,
FuzenTenshi
@mode: totally agree with u. to be honest, this was a LOT longer. ive cut it down quite a bit. hehe. too many possible scenarios. so ive jes selected the one i see as the most common or likely. and i see that the one u mentioned is pretty common too. ive seen that happen to quite a lot of ppl as well.
Maybe after that long relationship they get fed up of it all and dont wanna go through all those steps of the relationship. plus by now theyve already had sex and gone to the xtreme in their previous relationship so no way will they jes kiss and end it there in their new one. they wud like to have something MORE than they had in the previous one. and what else would be there by then except marriage? maybe they also wanna have a bit of security this time when they start anew *shrug*
@Fuzen Tenshi: i believe in a good life. doesnt mean i wont face the fact that what ive described here really does happen and that it happens ALOT dho? i really cant agree with those ppl who think of everything as rainbows and sunshine, cos it aint true. hehe. and thanx for the compliment :)
Your post has a theme to it don't it.
"Sex and Marriage". But don't you think theres more to the institution of marriage than that.
From what i understood from this blog. you are a person who couldn't handle any relationship, a person whos addicted to porn, and a person who can't think of nothing else but nailing a girl when you see her (but can't) by this i mean you would stare at our chests, check us out and picture us naked. You might justify this by saying you don't want to nail any of us just want a relationship with us but who are we kidding right. I am not trying to say anything bad at you just being pessimistic about you.
I've been married awhile and most of my friends been married for even longer I can tell you with all honesty this ain't how it works. Maybe for a select few this could be true but for the most NO WAY it is.
Kaiza you need some form of counselling. Something somewhere has seriously messed with your mind. There is more to a relationship than all these negative things you see of it.
Cao for now
Mrs.A
heheh. ooh, hit a nerve did i? its jes a pessimistic post by an individual, there's no reason for u to take it to heart :P. think of it this way. as u say ur marriage is going really well. isnt that a good thing? im sure everyone is happy for u including me. simple as that. thanx for reading :)
some ppl just dn't know the difference between an informative article and an accusation..
seriously lady.. if you have a happy life, then by all means, live it to the fullest... :-D
and gudluck to ya..
PS: awesume info as usual my bud!!
great post! its not that things happen always like this tho v c many outcomes in this generation like this.. enjoyed reading it! cheers keep the posts coming!
Finally the ha roadha is finished. Yaththaa!!
@Mrs.A : sorry I haven’t given a proper reply to u. jes didn’t have the mood for my usual replies. So here goes.
I really liked how uve xplained the second paragraph cos lets face it. Its true for a lot of guys and one doesn’t even have to be pessimistic abt it. Even all those so called religious innocent ppl are all perverted in one way or the other, that’s jes being human. It all comes down to how strong his will power is or in other cases the opportunity jes doesn’t present itself like uve described, thus leaving the person no choice in the matter
But the last two paragraphs…….MAYBE for a SELECTED FEW??? Seriously? :s u have got to be kidding me.
In a society where:
*ppl are running around plunging swords into their neighbors with the intent to kill,
*one out of every 5(or was it 4) girls are abused most cases in which it is a family member who is involved
*Women are raped on a weekly basis somewhere in our country
*divorce rate is setting a record in this region,
*an out of control drug crisis where even children are involved
*children of even 12 yrs old are getting pregnant due to illegal sex(not child abuse)
*corruption and fraud is at such a high level
*infants are murdered by their own parents and either flushed down toilets or buried alive
*the list jes keeps going on & on & on
Are you seriously telling me that in such a society it is THAT hard for you to believe that many people are involved in jes cheating in a marriage?(which in my opinion doesn’t even measure up to most of the ones ive described earlier). Im sure you cant be that blind. So maybe its jes a misunderstanding between us.
I never denied and I strongly believe that there are marriages and relationships even in this messed up society that set an example as being perfect. Ive never denied that now have i? neither have I said that ALL marriages turn out the way I have explained now have i? And here’s the funny thing. To my understanding IF you have such a perfect marriage where NONE of what I have written in my post applies to u and IF everything is as perfect now as it was at the beginning of ur marriage, and then suddenly you see someone write abt the possible negative outcomes that we are seeing all around us wont u feel glad and happy that your marriage is going perfectly instead of being frustrated about the thoughts of a stranger which you seem to be SURE are all wrong? Reacting this way jes gives the wrong impression and conclusion to others dho? It tends to show that right after reading the post realization has struck which brought about instant uncontrollable frustration and denial which led to allowing some of it to be unleashed onto the person who wrote the post, all the while knowing nothing productive would come out of it. So cheer up ma’am. Im sure you aren’t like that. Apparently u are a very lucky wife. Be thankful and cherish what uve got and set an example to other wives out there. I am truly happy for u
@sion ryuuken: thanx dude. looking forward to ur next performance
@selfish girl: yea, not all obviously but its common in this generation. thanx :) btw, haadha aa posteh nufeneyey mihaaru. too busy preparing for sumthin else dho? ;) hope im in male' when that day comes
LOL @ kAIZA =P Too busy playing games in Fb.. heheh but will update soon..
Bud, you forgot to add the Marriage Reset Law.
Cool story, bro.
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